A Journey To Truth: Coming Out of the Fog
Today, I want to share a deeply personal journey that many of us may resonate with. The process of coming out of the fog and leaving distractions behind to become better followers of God, wives, and mothers. In our busy lives, it can be all too easy to get caught up in the distractions of the world, losing sight of our divine purpose. However, through prayer, reflection, and the guidance of scripture, we can find our way back to clarity and fulfill our roles as women of faith.
Many steps must be taken on our journey. Some may be more difficult than others, but our having faith in the Lord reminds us that we must endure until the end.
Step 1: Acknowledging the Fog
Life can often feel like a fog, obscuring our vision and making it challenging to see the path God has laid out for us. Distractions come in many forms: social media, societal pressures, and even the busyness of our daily routines. In Jeremiah 16:17-21, we are reminded that God sees all our ways and knows our hearts. It reads:
“For my eyes are on all their ways; they are not hidden from me, nor is their sin concealed from my eyes. I will repay them double for their wickedness and their sin, because they have defiled my land with the lifeless forms of their vile images and the detestable idols.” (Jeremiah 16:17-18, NIV)
This scripture serves as a powerful reminder that God is always watching over us, guiding us through the fog. God wants his people to enjoy life, but never should we allow pleasures to pull us to disconnect from Him. He knows our struggles, our distractions, and the things that pull us away from Him. Recognizing this is the first step toward clarity.
Step 2: Throwing Distractions Away
As women of God, we are called to be examples of faith and virtue. It’s essential to assess what distractions are pulling us away from our relationship with God and our responsibilities as wives and mothers. Are we spending too much time on our phones? Are we allowing the opinions of others to influence our decisions? Are we being disobedient and unruly? Are we too strong minded?
In Proverbs 31:10-31, we see the qualities of a virtuous woman: strength, wisdom, and a heart devoted to her family and God. This passage inspires us to focus on what truly matters. Let’s ask ourselves: Are we embodying these qualities, or are we allowing the fog of distraction to dim our light?
Step 3: Grasping God’s Purpose
Coming out of the fog means embracing God’s purpose for our lives. It means prioritizing our relationship with Him above all else. When we seek Him earnestly, we will find clarity and direction. Matthew 6:33 reminds us:
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” (Matthew 6:33, ESV)
As we prioritize our spiritual growth, we become better equipped to fulfill our roles as wives and mothers. We gain the strength to support our husbands, nurture our children, and create a home that reflects God’s love and grace. Thus, we can encourage those around us. Be a light to those around you as we all are on individual journeys, we must keep each other on the righteous path.
Step 4: Polishing Your Spirit
To navigate through the fog, we must cultivate a spirit of prayer and reflection. Setting aside time each day to connect with God through prayer and scripture reading can transform our lives. In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, we are encouraged:
“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, ESV)
When we make prayer and following the commandments a priority, we invite God into our daily lives, allowing Him to guide our decisions and strengthen our resolve to leave distractions behind. Every day we must prove to God that we are better than the day before and we trust in his plan.
Conclusion
Coming out of the fog is not a one-time event. It is a constant evolution. On our journey to become better, there will be hurdles. We must remain faithful to the Lord and his strength. Are you ready for your transformation?
As a woman, I’ve had to confront a hard truth about modern relationships, one that many of us would rather avoid because it challenges how we see ourselves. It’s this: you cannot insist on leading yourself, reject a man’s guidance, and then turn around and blame him when things fall apart. Accountability doesn’t work that way, no matter how confidently we try to redefine it.
I’ve watched this dynamic play out repeatedly, and I’ve lived close enough to it to recognize the pattern.
Many women say they want independence, autonomy, and the freedom to make their own decisions. Men hear that and, more often than not, they respect it. They step back. They allow space. They don’t force direction where it isn’t welcomed. But here’s where the misunderstanding begins—when those independent decisions lead to disappointment, confusion, or failure, the narrative suddenly shifts.
Now the man is “unsupportive.” Now he “didn’t lead.” Now he “should’ve stopped her.”
But stopping someone who insists on choosing their own path is not leadership—it’s control. And most men are smart enough not to cross that line.
The uncomfortable truth is that many women will still choose their own way even after receiving guidance. A man may give advice, raise concerns, or offer perspective based on experience and foresight. Yet if it doesn’t align with what she feels is right, she often disregards it. Feelings become the deciding authority, not wisdom. And once that choice is made, responsibility must follow.
Leadership only works when it is respected.
If a woman chooses not to follow her husband’s counsel, she has effectively chosen to lead herself in that area. There is nothing inherently wrong with that—but it comes with a cost. You don’t get to override leadership and then demand protection from the consequences of your own decisions. You don’t get to dismiss a man’s voice and later accuse him of silence.
That is not partnership. That is convenience.
As women, we must be honest about what we want. If we want a man to lead, we have to allow him to lead—not just when it feels comfortable or confirms our desires, but especially when it challenges them. Respecting leadership means trusting it enough to follow through, even when the outcome is uncertain.
On the other hand, if we choose self-direction, we must also choose self-accountability.
There is no integrity in blaming a man for outcomes he warned us about or decisions he did not make. Blame-shifting may protect the ego temporarily, but it damages trust long-term. Over time, it teaches men that offering guidance is pointless because responsibility will be misplaced anyway.
You truly can’t have it both ways.
You cannot claim independence while demanding male accountability. You cannot reject leadership while expecting male responsibility. And you cannot insist on autonomy while resenting the space that autonomy creates.
From a woman’s perspective, maturity looks like clarity.
It means deciding whether you want leadership or autonomy—and standing by that choice honestly. It means owning your wins and your losses without rewriting history. It means respecting a man enough not to make him the scapegoat for decisions you insisted on making yourself.
True empowerment isn’t found in avoiding responsibility—it’s found in embracing it. Whether you choose to follow or to lead, the outcome belongs to the decision-maker. And real growth begins the moment we stop blaming and start owning our choices.
Watching My Sister-Wife Choose Rebellion
I speak as a woman who shared covenant space with another woman; my sister-wife. I did not learn her character through rumor or assumption. I watched it unfold up close, day by day, choice by choice. She knew God’s laws. She learned them plainly. She knew she was an Israelite, bound by a covenant, not feelings. And still, she chose to disobey—purposefully and willfully.
At first, she spoke the language of faith. She could quote commandments, explain statutes, and nod in agreement when obedience was discussed. But agreement never became submission. When God’s laws challenged her desires, she treated them like suggestions. I saw the shift when accountability began to feel like offense to her. Correction became “control.” Order became “oppression.” And rebellion disguised itself as independence.
It showed most clearly in how she treated her husband.
Where honor should have lived, contempt grew. She spoke to him with sharpness, calling him names she knew would cut deep. Disrespect became her default posture. She mocked his leadership, questioned his masculinity, and spoke about him in ways no wife; especially one who knows the law—should. When confronted, she claimed he provoked her, that his tone or timing justified her words. But I watched closely. Her disrespect was not a reaction; it was habit.
What pained me most was how calculated it became.
She began moving in secrecy, entertaining attention from other men while wearing righteousness on her face at home. She knew the law against adultery. She didn’t misunderstand it. She ignored it. She slept with other men behind her husband’s back and returned home as if nothing had happened. There was no fear of God in those moments—only confidence that she could manage appearances.
When her actions threatened to surface, she didn’t repent. She deflected.
She told her husband she needed space. She claimed emotional damage. She blamed him for the distance she created. I watched her gaslight him into believing her betrayal was his fault—something he said, something he didn’t do, some flaw she magnified to justify herself. He grew quieter, more confused, constantly trying to fix what he didn’t break. And she watched him carry guilt that belonged to her.
As her sister-wife, I felt torn between compassion and clarity. I understood pain. I understood struggle. But I could not excuse willful sin. Covenant is not ignorance. Being an Israelite means knowing better; and being held to that knowledge. She didn’t fall into sin accidentally. She maintained it intentionally. Each lie built upon the last. Each justification hardened her heart further.
What troubled me most was her refusal to acknowledge the truth.
She believed her feelings overruled God’s commands. She believed her dissatisfaction gave her permission. She wore victimhood as a shield against accountability, even as she inflicted harm. Watching her taught me how dangerous unchecked pride can be; especially when it borrows the language of faith.
I don’t write this to condemn her, but to tell the truth. There is a difference between stumbling and choosing rebellion. There is a difference between weakness and defiance. My sister-wife knew the way and turned from it anyway.
This is a warning wrapped in witness: knowing God’s law does not protect you if you refuse to obey it. Covenant is not a title; it is a responsibility. And when a woman rejects that responsibility, the damage reaches everyone connected to her—husband, household, and sister wives alike.
When Healing Is Reduced to Distractions: A Woman’s Reflection on a Dangerous Saying..
I’ve heard the phrase more times than I care to count: “The easiest way to get over a man is to get under another.” It’s usually said with a laugh, sometimes with pride, and almost always without reflection. As a woman, I find that statement troubling and disgusting, not because heartbreak isn’t real; but because it reveals how casually some women treat their own wounds.
There is something deeply shameful about turning pain into Acts of lust filled, delusional passion.
The women who live by that saying often present themselves as liberated, unbothered, and emotionally advanced. In reality, many of them are avoiding the truth. They are afraid of obedience, afraid of accountability, and afraid of confronting the truth of what a relationship exposed in them. Instead of sitting with grief, they bury it under attention. Instead of processing loss, they chase distraction.
What troubles me most is how shameless this mindset has become.
There is no pause, no reflection—just a rush to replace one body with another as if people are interchangeable and intimacy is disposable. These women, commonly known as “whores”; speak as though emotional detachment is strength, as though numbness is empowerment. But there is nothing powerful about refusing to heal. There is nothing confident about running from yourself and every relationship, when you encounter hard times.
I’ve watched women wear this behavior like armor.
They laugh louder, post more thirst traps, flirt harder, and brag about how quickly they “moved on.” But moving on is not the same as moving forward. Often, it’s just movement—restless, directionless, and fueled by validation. The men change, but the patterns stay the same. The hurt is still there, just quieter for a moment.
This mentality cheapens intimacy.
When sex becomes a tool to cope rather than a connection to honor, it loses its meaning. It turns into a transaction instead of a bond. The women who preach this idea often wonder why relationships never deepen, why trust feels impossible, why emptiness lingers no matter how much attention they receive. The answer is uncomfortable: you can’t heal a wound by pretending it doesn’t exist.
As a woman, I believe grief deserves respect.
Heartbreak is not something to outrun, it’s something to understand. It reveals our expectations, our boundaries, our blind spots. It teaches us where we compromised ourselves or ignored red flags. Skipping that lesson only ensures it will repeat. Healing requires honesty, restraint, and sometimes solitude—things this saying actively mocks.
There is also a cruelty embedded in the phrase.
It reduces men to tools and women to bodies, stripping both of humanity. It encourages using people as emotional bandages rather than treating them as individuals with their own vulnerabilities. That kind of behavior leaves collateral damage—confused partners, unresolved ties, and deeper wounds that stack over time.
What I’ve learned is this: true strength is the ability to be alone without being lonely.
A woman who can sit with her pain, reflect on it, and grow from it does not need to advertise her resilience. She doesn’t need to prove she’s “over it” by seeking immediate replacement. Her confidence comes from clarity, not conquest.
I’m not condemning desire or companionship. I’m challenging the idea that recklessness equals healing.
Unsavory behavior doesn’t become respectable just because it’s common. Shamelessness doesn’t become wisdom just because it’s repeated. And a slogan that avoids accountability will never produce peace.
If we want better relationships, we must demand better from ourselves. Healing isn’t found under another person—it’s found within the courage to pause, reflect, and choose growth over distraction.
When Confidence Becomes Delusion: A Woman’s Reflection on False Superiority.
I’ve watched a certain type of woman move through spaces with an air of superiority; convinced she is a better woman, a more qualified wife, more valuable than others—without ever stopping to examine the substance beneath the confidence. From a woman’s perspective, I can say plainly: belief does not equal truth, and self-appointment does not equal qualification.
There is a difference between knowing your worth and inflating it.
Some women speak as if being chosen automatically makes them exceptional. They confuse attention with value, desire with discipline. They believe that because a man notices them, pursues them, or temporarily prefers them, that they have somehow proven themselves superior. But being wanted is not the same as being prepared.
Attraction does not equal character, and competition does not create competence.
I’ve noticed that many of these women measure themselves against other women instead of against responsibility.
They talk about being “better wives” while having no patience, no emotional restraint, and no understanding of partnership.
They criticize other women’s flaws loudly, yet remain blind to their own. They brag about what they would never tolerate, while quietly engaging in behaviors that erode trust—disrespect, manipulation, selfishness, and avoidance of accountability.
From the outside, they look confident. From up close, they are fragile.
True qualification as a wife is not about dominance, comparison, or winning. It is about consistency. It’s about how a woman handles correction, conflict, and commitment when no one is applauding. A qualified wife knows how to communicate without belittling, to disagree without dishonoring, and to serve without keeping score. These skills aren’t glamorous, so they are often overlooked by women who prefer performance over substance.
I’ve seen women claim moral high ground while operating from pride.
They talk about “what they bring to the table” but cannot sustain peace. They want leadership from a man but resist structure. They demand provision but despise submission. They crave loyalty but flirt with boundaries. And when things fall apart, they rewrite the story so they remain the hero and someone else becomes the villain.
What stands out most is how often these women confuse independence with maturity.
Being loud, assertive, or sexually confident does not automatically make a woman fit for marriage. Marriage requires humility, emotional intelligence, self-control, and the ability to place the collective above the ego.
Many women who believe they are “above” others struggle deeply with these traits, yet refuse to acknowledge it because self-examination would threaten the image they’ve built. As a woman, I’ve learned that real worth doesn’t announce itself.
Qualified wives are often quiet learners. They are more concerned with growth than comparison. They don’t need to tear other women down to feel elevated. They understand that partnership is not a competition, and that being chosen today does not guarantee being kept tomorrow. The truth is uncomfortable: thinking you are better than other women often signals insecurity, not excellence.
A woman who is truly prepared for marriage doesn’t need to broadcast it. Her character speaks in her consistency, her restraint, and her willingness to be accountable. She knows that superiority is not claimed; it is demonstrated over time, under pressure, and in private.
If there is one lesson I’ve learned, it is this: humility outlasts arrogance. Substance outlasts performance. And women who stop comparing themselves to others and start refining themselves quietly become far more qualified than those who spend their time convincing everyone else that they already are.
“You’re Not Man Enough for Me”: What That Statement Really Says About a Woman
As a woman, I’ve heard this phrase spoken before—sometimes in anger, sometimes in pride, and sometimes as a weapon: “You’re not man enough for me.” On the surface, it sounds like a bold declaration of standards. But when you look deeper, it reveals much more about the woman saying it than the man she’s speaking to.
A woman who uses this phrase is usually operating from a mixture of hurt, disappointment, pride, or unrealistic expectations. It’s rarely a sign of strength—it’s often a sign of unresolved wounds. When a woman feels the need to diminish a man’s masculinity to make her point, it shows that she is dealing with internal battles she hasn’t addressed.
As women, we sometimes project our frustrations onto men instead of communicating honestly. Instead of saying, “I don’t feel protected,” or “I need emotional maturity,” or “I’m looking for consistency,” we lash out with statements meant to bruise the ego rather than express the heart. A woman who says, “You’re not man enough for me,” may actually be saying:
I don’t feel safe with you.
My expectations weren’t met.
I’m afraid of vulnerability.
I’m used to disappointment, so I attack before I get hurt.
Her words become armor—sharp enough to wound, but heavy enough to indicate she’s defending something fragile within herself.
It can also expose a misunderstanding of what true manhood looks like. Society has filled our heads with images of “alpha males,” luxury lifestyles, and superficial strength. So some women chase a fantasy instead of appreciating the genuine qualities of a grounded, responsible, loyal man. When a woman dismisses a man with a line like this, it sometimes reveals that her standards aren’t actually rooted in character, but in ego and comparison.
Another layer to this statement is accountability. When a woman blames a man’s “lack of manhood” for the failure of a connection, she absolves herself of responsibility. It’s easier to label him inadequate than to admit, “Maybe I chose wrong,” “Maybe I ignored red flags,” or “Maybe I wasn’t ready for a healthy relationship myself.”
But a mature woman knows that belittling a man doesn’t elevate her. A wise woman communicates her needs without attacking identity. A healed woman can recognize when a man isn’t compatible with her, but she says so with grace, not cruelty.
From my perspective, the phrase “You’re not man enough for me” ultimately reflects a woman still growing; someone learning how to articulate her standards without disrespect, how to exit situations without tearing the other person down, and how to choose relationships based on substance, not emotion.
A confident woman doesn’t have to question a man’s masculinity. She simply chooses a man who aligns with her values. And a woman walking in maturity understands that strength is shown not by how sharply she speaks, but by how gracefully she moves.
In the end, our words reveal our inner world. So if a woman finds herself speaking from frustration rather than wisdom, it’s a sign not to judge the man, but to check her own heart first.
Walking in Truth: The Importance of Following God’s Commandments as a Wife
As a woman striving to serve the Most High, one of the greatest responsibilities I carry is to remain grounded in His truth. Being a wife is a beautiful and sacred role, but it is also a position that requires discipline, humility, and obedience to God’s commandments. The world offers many opinions on what a modern wife should be, but none of them compare to the wisdom and structure found in the Scriptures.
Staying in the truth isn’t just about knowing the commandments—it’s about living them daily, in my actions, my words, and even my mindset. When I root myself in God’s laws, I become a stronger, more patient, more loving version of myself. His commandments shape my character, giving me the tools I need to build my home with wisdom instead of emotion, pride, or worldly influence.
One of the most important commandments for me as a wife is to walk in respect and humility. Not because I am weak, but because God calls me to be a pillar of peace in my household. When I submit myself to His order, I find clarity. I know how to move. I know how to communicate. I know how to love in a way that strengthens my marriage rather than tearing it down.
Following God’s commandments teaches me to guard my tongue, be slow to anger, and quick to offer grace. It reminds me that my husband is not my enemy—he is my partner, my covering, my protector. When I honor God, I naturally honor him. And when I honor him, harmony flows through our home.
Walking in truth also protects me from the spirit of comparison and worldly expectations. As women, it’s easy to look at others—whether on social media or in real life—and feel like we should mirror what they do. But the truth keeps me grounded. God’s word reminds me that my value doesn’t come from trends, validation, or external beauty; it comes from my obedience to Him.
Staying in His commandments also helps me cultivate a pure heart. It encourages me to pray more, study more, and reflect more. It keeps me accountable. If I fall short—which I sometimes do—it guides me back to repentance instead of excuses. It reminds me to operate with a spirit of kindness, not bitterness; patience, not stubbornness; love, not pride.
As a wife, I carry influence. How I speak, behave, and uphold God’s truth affects the entire household. When I walk in righteousness, my home becomes more peaceful. My marriage becomes stronger. My spirit becomes lighter. I am able to pour love into my husband, care for my home with joy, and serve God with a full heart.
Remaining in the truth is not always easy, but it is always worth it. God’s commandments shape me into the woman He created me to be. They remind me that my role is powerful, purposeful, and vital. And when I choose His ways over my own, I honor not only my marriage—but the Most High Himself.
In a world where the definition of womanhood constantly shifts, the timeless picture of the Proverbs 31 woman stands as an eternal standard of strength, honor, devotion, and godly wisdom. Far from being an unrealistic ideal, she represents what a true wife looks like—not in outward perfection, but in inward character shaped by the fear of the Lord. Her life teaches us that being a wife is more than a title; it is a calling rooted in love, service, and purposeful living.
Strength Wrapped in Grace
The Proverbs 31 woman is “clothed with strength and dignity” (Proverbs 31:25). Her strength isn’t loud, aggressive, or prideful. It is the quiet confidence of a woman who knows who she is in God. A true wife embodies this kind of strength: she stands tall through trials, carries her responsibilities with humility, and becomes a pillar for her home rather than a storm within it.
Her strength doesn’t replace femininity—it enhances it. She is tender, nurturing, and full of compassion, yet she is capable, wise, and resilient. She understands that godly strength is not about dominance but about devotion to what God has entrusted to her.
A Heart of Service and Stewardship
Proverbs 31 describes a woman who works diligently, manages her household well, and ensures her home is a place of warmth, provision, and order. She rises early, plans ahead, and is intentional about her family’s well-being. This doesn’t mean a true wife must do everything alone, but her heart is one of stewardship rather than neglect.
A true wife sees her home as a ministry. She nurtures the atmosphere, keeps peace, builds stability, and protects her family from emotional, spiritual, and practical lack. She isn’t lazy or careless; she treats her home as a precious gift God has given her to guard and grow.
Wisdom in Her Words and Actions
The Proverbs 31 woman “opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Proverbs 31:26). A true wife understands the power of her words—she can build her home or break it with her tongue. She chooses encouragement over sarcasm, guidance over gossip, and prayer over pointless argument.
Her wisdom flows from her relationship with the Lord. She sees decisions through spiritual eyes and understands the weight of her influence. Her husband and children can trust her because she acts with integrity, kindness, and discernment.
A Treasure to Her Husband
Her husband “trusts in her,” and her presence increases his favor and reputation (Proverbs 31:11, 23). A true wife doesn’t compete with her husband; she complements him. She supports his vision, adds value to his life, and becomes a safe place for his heart. She honors him publicly and privately, and her loyalty strengthens their bond.
The Foundation: Fear of the Lord
Above all, the Proverbs 31 woman is praised because she “fears the Lord” (Proverbs 31:30). Her beauty, work ethic, creativity, and intelligence are all rooted in a deep reverence for God. A true wife understands that her identity, strength, and purpose come from Him, and she builds her marriage on that foundation.
The Power of Focus: Building Strong Relationships Through Mutual Connection
In today’s world of constant distraction, one of the rarest and most valuable gifts you can offer your partner is your full attention. Whether in a monogamous or polygynous relationship, the strength of any union lies in how deeply two people see, hear, and understand each other. When men and women truly focus on one another—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—they create a bond that endures through challenges, builds trust, and nurtures peace within the home.
The Foundation of Focus in Relationships
Relationships thrive on connection, and connection requires presence. It’s easy to go through the motions—living together, talking about logistics, and sharing responsibilities—without really being with each other. Focusing on your partner means actively listening, studying their moods, supporting their growth, and creating space for their emotions.
For men, that focus looks like leadership balanced with compassion—protecting, providing, and guiding while still being emotionally available. For women, it often looks like nurturing, supporting, and bringing stability and warmth to the relationship. Both roles are valuable, and both are needed.
When each partner prioritizes the relationship above external noise—social media, friends, work stress—they strengthen the foundation of love and respect that holds everything together. Without that focus, even the most passionate relationship can drift into distance and disconnection.
Polygyny and the Importance of Individual Connection
In polygynous relationships, where one man is married to more than one woman, focus becomes even more crucial. Many people misunderstand polygyny, thinking it’s simply about one man having multiple partners. But in truth, successful polygyny is built on structure, fairness, and individual relationships that each hold their own identity and depth.
A husband in a polygynous marriage must form and maintain a meaningful connection with each wife. Each woman deserves to feel loved, seen, and valued—not as part of a group, but as an individual. Every relationship has its own rhythm, chemistry, and emotional needs. A wise man recognizes this and invests time and attention into learning each woman’s heart.
This individual focus prevents comparison and competition, two common pitfalls in polygynous settings. When each woman feels secure in her unique bond with her husband, the family functions with harmony rather than jealousy. It’s not about dividing love—it’s about multiplying understanding and care.
The Role of Women in a Polygynous Relationship
For women, focus is equally important. In a polygynous family, it can be easy to become distracted by what another wife receives—more time, more gifts, more attention. But comparison erodes peace. A woman who keeps her focus on her own relationship with her husband and on her personal growth will find more fulfillment than one who looks outward.
Each wife brings something distinct to the husband’s life. One may bring gentleness, another strength, another wisdom. The power lies in embracing that individuality and cultivating peace within oneself. The healthiest polygynous families often have women who respect each other’s space, communicate with maturity, and trust their husband’s fairness and intentions.
When a woman focuses on building her bond with her husband—through respect, communication, and support—she strengthens not only their connection but also the balance of the entire family.
Mutual Focus Brings Balance and Peace
At its core, focus in relationships is about intention. When two people deliberately give time and energy to their bond, the relationship grows richer. In polygyny, when each individual relationship is healthy, the collective family structure becomes more stable and peaceful.
For the husband, focus means treating each relationship as sacred—being consistent, transparent, and emotionally present. It also means managing time and affection with fairness and integrity, ensuring no woman feels neglected or dismissed.
For the wives, focus means nurturing trust, avoiding jealousy, and remembering that love expands—it isn’t limited. Each woman’s relationship with her husband is unique, and honoring that individuality helps create an environment of mutual respect and inner calm.
In the End, Love Demands Presence
Whether in a one-on-one marriage or a polygynous household, love thrives when both men and women are intentional about focusing on one another. True connection isn’t about constant passion or perfection—it’s about attention, understanding, and care.
When couples turn their focus inward—away from distractions and comparisons—they rediscover the beauty of partnership. And in polygyny, when that principle is applied individually and collectively, it transforms what could be a complex structure into a harmonious, balanced family built on trust and love.
Focus, then, is more than an act—it’s a discipline. It’s the daily choice to look at your partner and say, I see you, I value you, and I am committed to growing with you. In a world where attention is fleeting, that kind of focus is the rarest and most powerful form of love
The Power of Communication: The Lifeline of Every Relationship
Communication is the heartbeat of every meaningful relationship. Whether it’s between husband and wife, friends, family members, or business partners, open and honest communication is what keeps the bond alive. Without it, even the strongest relationships begin to crumble. People often underestimate how vital it is to consistently connect, share, and express; but the truth is, communication is the glue that holds love, trust, and understanding together.
When communication stops, misunderstandings grow. A simple lack of clarity can turn into assumption, and assumption often turns into conflict. What could have been easily resolved through a heartfelt conversation can become a wall of silence that divides two people who once shared everything. Communication is not just about talking; it’s about listening, understanding, and being willing to work through differences together. It is how love stays alive and how respect continues to thrive.
The Silent Killer of Relationships
A lack of communication is one of the greatest destroyers of relationships. It creates distance, confusion, and resentment. When people stop communicating, they stop growing together. The relationship begins to weaken, not because of one major issue, but because of the many small moments of silence that go unresolved. Words left unsaid can weigh heavier than words spoken in anger. Over time, silence can turn into separation; not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
In marriage, this truth becomes even more critical. When a wife separates from her husband and discontinues communication, she doesn’t just create physical space; she also weakens the spiritual and emotional connection that binds them. The longer the silence continues, the harder it becomes to reconnect. What started as a small disagreement or period of cooling off can evolve into months or even years of distance, regret, and emotional detachment. Love cannot survive where communication is absent.
The 24-Hour Rule: Never Let Silence Take Root
In every healthy marriage, communication should be consistent and intentional. A husband and wife should never go 24 hours or more without talking to each other; especially when there is tension. Time does not heal silence; communication does. The Bible reminds us, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Ephesians 4:26). That means problems should be addressed before they have a chance to harden hearts.
When a husband and wife go to bed angry or avoid speaking for days, they open the door for emotional separation. Small issues turn into larger ones. Feelings of loneliness creep in. Distrust can begin to form. That’s why communication is not optional; it’s essential. Even a simple message, a short call, or a few words of reassurance can make all the difference. It says, “I still care,” “I still value you,” and “I’m still here.”
Healthy communication requires humility, patience, and love. It means being willing to listen without interrupting, to speak without attacking, and to resolve disagreements with peace in mind. It’s not always easy, especially when emotions are high, but the reward is unity and understanding.
Building and Protecting the Bond
Strong communication builds emotional intimacy. It allows couples to share their dreams, fears, and daily experiences. It’s how they stay connected as life changes around them. Without it, the relationship becomes like a house with no foundation; one storm away from collapse. When couples make communication a daily habit, they strengthen their bond and build trust that can withstand trials.
So whether it’s a disagreement, a busy season, or just the everyday flow of life; never let a day pass without connecting. A quick “I love you,” a thoughtful text, or a heartfelt conversation can do wonders for a relationship. Communication is how love breathes; silence is how it suffocates.
In the end, the importance of communication cannot be overstated. It is the bridge between hearts, the path to understanding, and the protection against division. If we want strong, lasting relationships, we must talk, listen, and stay connected; every single day.
“You Don’t Do Anything for Me”: The Things Women Overlook About a Man’s Value
In relationships, it’s not uncommon to hear a woman say to a man, “You don’t do anything for me.” But what exactly does that mean? Too often, that statement is tied to money, gifts, or material acts of service. But if that’s the only measure of what a man brings to a woman’s life, then we’ve missed the entire point of partnership, growth, and true connection.
Let’s take a step back and look deeper. When a woman says a man hasn’t done anything for her, is she really accounting for everything he’s done? Or is she only looking at what can be seen, touched, or spent?
Because truth be told, some of the most valuable things a man gives a woman can’t be bought.
Did You Account for What He Taught You?
Sometimes a man’s greatest contribution isn’t financial; it’s mental, emotional, or spiritual.
Maybe he taught you how to follow God and build your faith. Maybe he challenged you to pray more, to see yourself through divine eyes, or to stand on principles instead of emotions. That’s not something you can measure with dollars, but it’s something that can change the entire direction of your life.
Maybe he taught you business; how to think strategically, make moves, and be more independent. Maybe he helped you see your potential beyond a paycheck, giving you tools to create and build. Does that count as nothing?
Or maybe, he didn’t just pour into you; he poured into your children. Maybe he guided your son in becoming disciplined or showed your daughter what real protection looks like. Maybe he modeled patience, structure, or leadership in ways that left an impact beyond words. That kind of teaching doesn’t fade; it builds legacy.
Did You Account for What He Helped You See in Yourself?
A man who truly loves a woman won’t just comfort her; he’ll challenge her.
Sometimes, that challenge is uncomfortable because it exposes what we need to grow from. Maybe he taught you about hygiene, health, or how to carry yourself with self-respect. Maybe he helped you understand your worth, even when that meant calling out behaviors that didn’t serve you.
It’s easy to see correction as criticism, but sometimes that correction was care. The lessons that sting the most are often the ones that save us later.
And let’s not forget – maybe he helped you see through lies that others told you. Lies from “friends” who didn’t want to see you grow. Lies from family members who spoke from pain instead of love. Lies from society about what a woman should or shouldn’t be. Sometimes a man gives you clarity, and that’s worth more than any gift.
Men, Remember What You Bring
Men, the next time a woman says, “You don’t do anything for me,” take a breath. Don’t get angry. Just remember, and remind her, of all that you’ve done that can’t be seen with the eyes.
You might not have spoiled her with shopping sprees, but you gave her wisdom.
You might not have flown her around the world, but you helped her elevate her mind.
You might not have always had money in your pocket, but you gave her perspective, stability, and truth.
That is doing something. In fact, that’s doing a lot.
Final Thoughts
Love isn’t only about provision; it’s about growth. It’s about how two people help each other become better versions of themselves. The world has trained many to measure love in money, but the real measure is in meaning.
So ladies, before you say, “You don’t do anything for me,” ask yourself; did he feed my spirit, strengthen my character, or open my eyes to truth?
And men, don’t ever forget the value of your influence. Money fades. Looks fade. But the lessons you teach; those last forever.
Love, Accountability, and the Courage to Stay
Love is one of the most powerful and complex emotions we will ever experience. It has the ability to build us up, break us down, and reshape how we see the world; and ourselves. But real love isn’t just about affection, comfort, or the easy moments. It’s about accountability, forgiveness, and the willingness to understand another person’s heart, even when their way of loving looks different from ours.
Too often, relationships fail not because love disappears, but because understanding does. When two people come from different backgrounds, they often have different definitions of love. One person might equate love with constant affection, while the other might see love as growth, honesty, and discipline. Neither is wrong, but problems arise when we expect love to look only one way; our way.
In today’s world, many people are quick to walk away at the first sign of discomfort. But love, the kind that lasts, requires staying when it’s easier to leave. It requires conversations that challenge your pride. It means being honest enough to say, “I messed up,” and humble enough to listen when your partner says the same.
That’s what real accountability looks like in love. It’s not about blame; it’s about responsibility. It’s recognizing that every strong relationship is built on two people who are willing to be honest, not just with each other, but with themselves. When we fail to hold ourselves accountable, we make it hard for our partner to trust us. And when trust fades, love struggles to breathe.
The truth is, everyone makes mistakes in relationships. We say things we shouldn’t. We take each other for granted. We let pride speak louder than love. But what separates lasting love from temporary attraction is the ability to learn from those moments instead of running from them.
Sometimes, the deepest love doesn’t come from the person who gives you constant compliments or gifts. It comes from the one who challenges you to grow. The one who tells you the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. The one who stands beside you, not because it’s easy, but because they see the potential in what you both can become together.
That kind of love requires spiritual maturity. It’s not just emotional; it’s divine. The Bible reminds us in 1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” This means love isn’t blind; it sees flaws, but chooses grace. It acknowledges mistakes, but chooses healing over resentment.
Marriage and long-term commitment were never meant to be effortless. They were meant to refine us. Through our partners, God often reveals the parts of ourselves that still need work; the pride, the impatience, the fear of vulnerability. That’s why love requires humility.
In Mark 10:9, Jesus says, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” This isn’t just about marriage vows; it’s about divine partnership. When two hearts are joined by purpose, no argument, misunderstanding, or outside influence should have the power to tear them apart. But for that to be true, both people must be willing to show up daily; with honesty, grace, and accountability.
Love that lasts isn’t perfect, but it’s persistent. It forgives when it hurts. It rebuilds after it breaks. It chooses understanding over ego, and peace over pride.
If you’ve ever loved someone deeply, you know that love changes you. It teaches you patience. It humbles you. It shows you that intimacy isn’t just physical; it’s spiritual. And sometimes, it even calls you to love when it’s hard, not because the other person deserves it, but because that’s what true love does.
So, if you’re in a place where love feels distant or uncertain, take a step back and ask yourself: Am I loving from pride, or am I loving from grace? The difference determines whether love fades or grows.
Real love doesn’t mean avoiding mistakes; it means facing them together. It means learning to see love not just as a feeling, but as a daily choice. And when both hearts commit to that kind of love, the bond becomes unbreakable.
Love is not just about how someone makes you feel; it’s about how both of you make each other better.
And when love is rooted in accountability, guided by grace, and strengthened by faith, it doesn’t just survive; it thrives.
What Is Love Bombing?
Love bombing is a manipulative strategy where someone overwhelms another person with affection, flattery, gifts, and attention early in a relationship. The goal isn’t true love or genuine connection; it’s about fast-tracking intimacy, creating dependence, and gaining control before trust naturally develops.
In psychology, it’s often described as:
“A psychological manipulation technique used to influence and control someone by showering them with affection, praise, and attention.”
This pattern is common in toxic or narcissistic relationships, though it can also happen unconsciously when someone confuses intensity with intimacy. The end result is usually the same: the recipient starts to feel obligated, guilty, or pressured to return the same intensity, even when they’re not ready.
How Love Bombing Looks in Real Life (When a Woman Bombs a Man)
Love bombing can be subtle at first, but the signs grow clearer with time. Here are the most common ways it shows up:
1. Excessive Compliments and Validation
She constantly praises him in over-the-top ways, often within just days or weeks of meeting. It’s not the usual “you look nice today,” but exaggerated declarations of perfection.
Example: “You’re the most amazing man I’ve ever met. No one has ever done anything for me like you do. I think you might be my soulmate.”
2. Moving Too Fast
She pushes the relationship forward at lightning speed. Big conversations about marriage, children, or moving in together happen before the relationship has a chance to breathe.
Example: After just a few dates, she’s already calling him “hubby” or insisting they should live together soon.
3. Over-the-Top Gestures
She showers him with lavish gifts, expensive trips, or dramatic acts of service far too early. While generosity can be sweet, love bombing generosity feels like a performance or a way to “buy” commitment.
Example: After a month or two of dating, she buys him luxury gifts or books a vacation where she insists he doesn’t pay for anything.
4. Constant Communication
Her texts, calls, and video chats never stop. If he doesn’t respond quickly or needs to cut a call short, she acts upset or guilt-trips him. What seems like devotion is actually pressure.
Example: If he says he needs to hang up, she pretends to be sad or disappointed just to keep him on the line longer.
5. Creating Dependence
She begins to position herself as the only one who truly understands him. Over time, she may subtly put down his friends and family, pushing him to rely only on her.
Example: “Your friends aren’t good friends. They just lie to you because they’re scared of you.”
6. Withdrawing When Control Isn’t Gained
If he sets boundaries or doesn’t return the same intensity, she suddenly pulls away, becomes cold, or lashes out with guilt. This hot-and-cold behavior keeps him chasing her approval.
Example: “Wow, I thought we had something special… I guess I was wrong about you. You’re not the man I thought you were.”
Love Bombing vs. Healthy Love
The difference between love bombing and healthy affection lies in pace and respect. Healthy love develops gradually, respecting both partners’ boundaries and comfort levels. Love bombing, on the other hand, feels like a tidal wave—exciting and intoxicating at first, but later manipulative and suffocating.
Healthy love: steady, respectful, and patient.
Love bombing: overwhelming, manipulative, and pressure-filled.
Final Thoughts
Being showered with attention and gifts can feel thrilling, but if it feels like “too much, too soon,” it’s worth pausing and reflecting. True love doesn’t need to rush, pressure, or manipulate—it allows both people to grow together at a healthy pace.
If you find yourself on the receiving end of love bombing, remember: real love respects boundaries, develops over time, and leaves you feeling safe—not controlled.
Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be complicated. At the heart of every healthy partnership is communication, understanding, and forgiveness. One of the biggest challenges women—and men too—often face in a relationship is learning how to manage emotions in a way that builds, instead of breaks, the bond. While feelings are natural and necessary, letting them control every reaction or holding on to grudges can create walls that block intimacy and trust. For a woman especially, staying out of her feelings and choosing not to hold grudges is one of the most powerful ways to maintain peace and strength in her relationship.
Emotions vs. Emotional Control
Feelings themselves are not the problem. They are signals of what we care about, whether it’s love, respect, or security. However, when emotions become the driver instead of the guide, they can cause impulsive reactions. A woman who reacts solely based on her feelings in heated moments may say things she doesn’t mean, create distance, or add fuel to a small disagreement. Emotional control is not about ignoring your feelings, but about choosing wisdom over reaction. It’s about pausing, breathing, and deciding whether the response will heal or harm the relationship.
The Danger of Holding Grudges
Grudges are like invisible weights that silently pull a relationship down. Holding on to hurt from the past, replaying arguments, or keeping score of mistakes creates resentment. Over time, resentment becomes poison—it kills affection, weakens trust, and turns partners into opponents instead of teammates. A woman who refuses to hold grudges allows her relationship room to grow. Forgiveness is not about pretending something didn’t happen, but about freeing yourself and your partner from the chains of yesterday.
Strength Is in Letting Go
Many people mistake forgiveness for weakness, but it’s actually one of the strongest choices you can make. It takes inner strength to let go of offenses instead of replaying them. A woman who can rise above her feelings shows her maturity and emotional intelligence. She positions herself as a safe place for her partner—a space where love is stronger than ego. This kind of strength builds deep respect, because it shows that the relationship is more valuable than the temporary satisfaction of holding on to anger.
Creating a Safe Space for Love
Every relationship thrives when both partners feel safe—safe to be vulnerable, safe to make mistakes, safe to grow. When a woman manages her emotions and refuses to hold grudges, she creates an environment where love can flourish. Instead of her partner walking on eggshells, he knows he can communicate openly without fear of constant punishment for past mistakes. This safety deepens intimacy and connection, turning the relationship into a true partnership.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, staying out of your feelings doesn’t mean ignoring them, and not holding grudges doesn’t mean you allow yourself to be mistreated. It means valuing peace over pride and choosing growth over grudges. A woman who practices emotional discipline and forgiveness becomes not only a better partner but also a stronger version of herself. Her relationship has a greater chance of lasting because love is allowed to flow freely—without barriers of resentment or unchecked emotions.
Introduction
When we hear the word “provider,” many immediately think of finances. But when God created man and gave him responsibility over his family, His intention went far beyond being the breadwinner. Biblical provision encompasses spiritual leadership, emotional stability, physical security, and financial support. This holistic approach reflects God’s heart for family.
I. The Origin of Provision
Genesis 2:15 – “The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.”
Before Eve was created, Adam was charged with responsibility. Work was part of his role, but also stewardship and protection.
II. The Four Pillars of Provision
1. Spiritual Provision (Leadership & Guidance)
Ephesians 5:23 – “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church…”
Men are called to shepherd their homes spiritually: teaching God’s Word, leading prayer, and ensuring a Christ-centered household.
Application: Schedule family devotionals, pray daily with your spouse, and model faith.
2. Emotional Provision (Love & Stability)
Colossians 3:19 – “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
A provider ensures emotional security: listening, affirming, and creating an atmosphere of peace.
Application: Practice empathy, affirm your spouse and children daily.
3. Physical Provision (Protection & Safety)
1 Peter 3:7 – “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way… showing honor…”
Protection isn’t just from physical harm; it includes safeguarding the family’s dignity, well-being, and honor.
Application: Be attentive to health, boundaries, and family security.
4. Righteous Provision (Guidance For Keeping The Laws of God)
1 Timothy 5:1-8 – Verse 8: “If anyone does not provide for his relatives… he has denied the faith.”
Men must diligently work to make sure their families stay in the truth and keeps the laws of God.
Application: Consistent Bible studies, judging righteously, avoid family feuds, and practice keeping the laws daily.
III. Why This Matters
A man who provides only financially but neglects spiritual and emotional roles leaves his family vulnerable. True provision mirrors Christ’s love—sacrificial and holistic.
Conclusion
Being a provider is not just a job description; it’s a calling to lead, love, and protect in every area of life. Men, embrace your role as a comprehensive provider: spiritually, emotionally, physically, and financially. This is God’s design for strong, godly families.
Polygynous relationships are not for the faint of heart. They require wisdom, emotional intelligence, and spiritual grounding. When a man chooses to walk this path, he accepts the responsibility of leading multiple wives with fairness and love—a task that demands humility and strength. However, leadership comes with difficult choices, and sometimes those choices won’t make everyone happy.
In any family dynamic, disagreements and emotions are inevitable, but in a polygynous household, those dynamics are multiplied. A husband in this setting must balance time, resources, and emotional support across the board. Decisions like financial priorities, living arrangements, or even conflict resolution can easily cause tension. At times, what benefits one wife may seem unfair to another. This is where the weight of leadership truly shows.
The Bible reminds us of the gravity of leadership:
“To whom much is given, much will be required.” (Luke 12:48)
Being the head of the family doesn’t mean ruling with an iron fist—it means serving with love and wisdom. Yet love sometimes calls for hard truths and uncomfortable decisions.
Consider this scenario: one wife faces financial struggles, while the other desires a family vacation. The husband may decide to allocate funds to prevent hardship rather than indulge in leisure. Will this upset someone? Absolutely. But as the leader, his focus must be on what sustains the entire family, not just immediate gratification.
Popular relationship wisdom says, “A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.” This applies in a polygynous home more than ever. Temporary disappointment doesn’t equal lack of love; it often signifies a long-term vision for stability and harmony.
Proverbs 27:17 declares, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Friction isn’t always bad—it can build strength and resilience in relationships when handled with grace. Sometimes a tough decision opens the door for growth, deeper understanding, and even reconciliation.
Communication is key. A wise husband explains his reasoning, listens to concerns, and reassures his wives of his commitment to fairness. Transparency creates trust, even when the decisions sting. The goal is not perfection—it’s balance.
Lastly, love must always anchor leadership. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25) This verse doesn’t suggest favoritism or neglect; it calls for sacrificial love. Tough decisions become easier when they stem from genuine care for everyone’s well-being.
Polygynous relationships can thrive when built on faith, patience, and understanding. Yes, hard choices will come, and feelings may be hurt—but if the foundation is love and the motive is unity, peace will prevail. Remember, “In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.”
In the end, leadership is less about making everyone happy and more about guiding everyone toward the greater good—even when it’s hard
Marriage is a sacred covenant, not just between a man and a woman, but between both of them and God. It’s meant to be a union where two people walk in the same spiritual direction, encouraging each other to live in obedience to the Lord. But what happens when your wife refuses to follow God? What if she resists His truth, ignores His commands, and pulls you away from your purpose?
It’s not an easy topic. The thought of letting go of a wife is painful. The emotional bonds, the shared memories, the vows—these are not things to be discarded lightly. However, Scripture warns us about being unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14). When one partner is walking with God and the other is actively resisting Him, the relationship becomes a constant spiritual battle. Over time, it can weaken your faith, dim your fire for God, and distract you from your calling.
God’s Word is clear: our loyalty to Him must come before loyalty to anyone else—even our spouse (Luke 14:26). If your wife’s refusal to follow God leads to rebellion against His will in your own life, then the marriage has shifted out of alignment with its original purpose. Staying in such a relationship may mean choosing comfort over obedience.
Letting go is not about revenge or bitterness—it’s about faithfulness to God. Abraham left his homeland in obedience to the Lord, not knowing what lay ahead (Genesis 12:1). Sometimes God asks us to walk away from relationships that no longer serve His plan for our lives. In Malachi 2:16, God says He hates divorce, but that verse is often misunderstood—He hates what causes divorce: betrayal, unfaithfulness, and rebellion against His ways. If your wife persistently rejects God, she is already breaking the covenant at its spiritual core.
Releasing such a relationship requires courage. It means trusting God to heal your heart, provide for your needs, and possibly bring a godly partner in His timing. It means believing that your obedience will open doors to blessings you can’t see yet.
But letting go should be done prayerfully and righteously. This is not an excuse to abandon a marriage over minor disagreements or spiritual immaturity. God is patient, and so should we be. A wife struggling in faith is different from a wife outright rejecting God. The former needs prayer, patience, and guidance; the latter may require separation if her resistance is pulling you into sin or away from your purpose.
In the end, remember this: you cannot save someone who refuses to be saved. Salvation is personal. You can plant seeds, you can pray, you can live as an example—but you cannot force the heart to surrender to God. If she chooses to walk away from Him, you may have to let her go so you can keep walking with Him.
Obedience to God is always worth the cost. And sometimes, that cost is the person you thought would walk beside you forever.
Hey ladies and welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing our role as a loving helpmate to our husbands. Genesis 2:18, ” Then the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a helper fit for him”. We as wives were created with a sole purpose to help our husbands. Our husbands face many obstacles on a daily basis. Some of these obstacles you may be aware of, and I can assure you that there are also many obstacles he is facing alone. One way we can help our husband is by praying with him and for him. Never underestimate the power of prayer. We should not only be praying with our husbands, but we should also pray for them as much as possible. If we are living righteously, God will honor your obedience and listen to your prayers.
Another way, and one of the biggest ways we should be helping our husbands is to invest in our men. Investing in our husbands consist of actively nurturing the relationship and showing him unconditional love and support for his dreams. This involves communicating effectively and understanding his needs. It is our calling to help our husbands and their dreams/ goals with a consistent effort and full attention. Pay attention to the little things and prioritize your husband’s needs above every and anything else.A happy and successful husband will lead to a happy and loving home.
One of my favorite ways to help my husband is to encourage him on a daily basis. We expect our husbands to be strong 100% of the time, however the reality is that we all go through ups and downs in life. We as wives should be uplifting their spirits on a daily basis. Show him you care, show him he is appreciated and show him that you will be by his side at all times.
We as wives are currently living under a curse as sinful human beings. In Genesis 3:16, God cursed Eve after she sinned. We will have the desire to control our husbands, rather than to help as God intended. We need to fight through that feeling, and learn to follow our husbands lead and authority. The happiest marriages are the ones where the wives are willing to fulfill their helper roles. Our husbands were created to lead, and every leader needs a helper to be successful. Your husband will have specific areas where he needs your help. Take some time to communicate and learn what his unique needs are.
As a wife/ helper you should be his top supporter, friend, cheerleader, encourager and confidante. When we offer help to our husbands without them having to ask, he feels loved and blessed. Take the initiative to help your husband and I guarantee you will receive a positive response. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies and welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to discuss with you a few advantages of having and loving a sister wife. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 ” Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” In my opinion, one of the biggest advantages to having a sister wife is the social and emotional support that we as women need and desire. A sister wife can eventually become a best friend. If the relationship is built with genuine love, we can build strong bonds and provide support and encouragement to each other through tough times.
The second benefit to having a sister wife that I would like to discuss with you is the shared responsibilities. A sister wife can assist with household chores and childcare. As a mother/ wife, it is normal to feel exhausted or ill at times. A sister wife can help reduce the amount of work we do keeping up with our homes and ensure our families are always taken care of. This will also provide you with some free time for yourself, to read a book, watch a movie, or even just enjoy free time with your family.
Another great benefit of having a sister wife is the economic benefits. We hear it all the time, due to inflation, everything has become so expensive. Sharing financial responsibilities takes away the burden of having to pay all the bills, groceries, and everyday needs alone. When there are multiple wives working in a household there is an increased earning potential. We may then save for a rainy day, or invest our money into something bigger and better. Money seems to be one of the biggest issues in our relationships nowadays. Imagine not having to stress about where your next meal is coming from, or if you will be able to pay your light bill next month.
With all pros, there will also be cons. Having a sister wife may create the potential for jealousy or conflict. You may also be concerned with ethical or social stigma. This is where the part of accepting and loving your sister wife needs to be genuine and from the heart. If you love one another, how God has commanded us to, we should not run into these sorts of issues. Remember to always put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to review the importance of following our husbands lead.Ephesians 5:22-23 “Wives submit yourselves to your own husband as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church”. Healthy marriages are built and grow strong through a biblical foundation. As wives, we need to embrace our role as loving helpmates to our husbands. Embracing this role will make it easier to construct and maintain a healthy and long lasting marriage. As women, we have been blessed with having the spirit to desire and pursue what is best for our husbands. I can say from personal experience, the number one thing our husbands desire and the bible commands from us is full submission. In order for us to be fully submissive to our husbands, we must first fully submit to the Lord. Your relationship with the most high has a big impact on your relationship with your husband. We need to see and treat our husbands as an act of worship, praise, and thanks to the Lord. It is not correct for us as wives to treat or see our husbands as our equals. This is the same as saying you are equal to God. This is a sin and disrespectful to the Lord.
When we show honor and respect to our husbands, the most high sees that as we are honoring him. I like to view submission as; when we submit to our husbands, this is an overflow of submission to the most high. The next step we as wives need to learn to fully submit to our husbands is to learn when to yield and stop. Unfortunately, due to social media and the world we have grown up in, this does not come naturally to most women. The most high has put the curse on us women to desire to control our husbands. This is a curse and not a commandment. Genesis 3:16 ” I will make your pains in childbearing very severe, with painful labor you will give birth to your children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you”. This sinful nature in wives is what has created conflict of who leads our household and has broken up many marriages. As an Israelite wife, you may read the bible, join bible studies, and be involved in Holy Days and Festivals, however if you mistreat, disrespect, and reject the leadership of your husbands, you are still in full sin. This also reflects bad on our families as a whole and puts our husbands in sin as well. A husband who has no control over his household, is not living righteously in the eyes of the Lord. The world, and more importantly the most high, will judge the value in your faith to the Lord and to fully commit more by how we live our lives than by our theology. An Israelite wife that is constantly disrespectful and disobedient to her husband is a tool to dishonor Gods word. As wives in the truth, we need to invest our time in teaching other wives how to live according to Gods laws.
We must also be willing to learn and grow from wisdom provided to us by other women/ wives living righteously. God has created marriage in such a way that for it to work, a husband must lead with a sacrificial heart and a wife must follow with a submissive heart. There will be times that your husband and you will not see eye to eye. At that point someone needs to make the final decision, and that someone is your husband. God will hold him accountable for that decision made. Take some time today and dig deep into the scripture and read about what our Lord the most high has to say about your role as a wife. Love and enjoy your role as wife, see it as a blessing, and thank God for allowing you the opportunity to follow and obey someone made in his image. To become the wife he has created you to be, you need to fully embrace and submit to the Lord most high. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
In a world where challenges abound and relationships are often tested, there exists a unique and admirable figure: the strong wife. She is a partner, a confidante, and a source of unwavering support, standing by her husband through every twist and turn that life has to offer.
The strong wife embodies resilience. When the storms of life arrive—whether they’re financial difficulties, health struggles, or career setbacks—she doesn’t falter. Instead, she digs deep, finding strength not just for herself, but for her husband and their shared journey. She knows that life is a series of seasons, and even the darkest winters will eventually give way to spring.
Her loyalty is unmatched. A strong wife understands that love is not just a feeling but a commitment. She chooses her husband every single day, through the good and the bad. It’s in her steadfast belief in their partnership that the foundation of their relationship becomes unshakable.
But her strength isn’t just about enduring tough times—it’s also about celebrating the good times. She’s the one cheering the loudest when her husband succeeds, the one encouraging him to chase his dreams, and the one reminding him of his worth when self-doubt creeps in. Her support isn’t passive; it’s active, intentional, and deeply rooted in love.
A strong wife also knows the importance of her own well-being. She recognizes that to be the pillar her husband leans on, she must take care of herself—mind, body, and soul. Her strength is as much about her self-awareness as it is about her devotion.
Ultimately, the strong wife is a testament to the power of partnership. She proves that love, loyalty, and perseverance can weather any storm and create a bond that not only survives but thrives. She is the anchor, the light, and the heart of her family.
Relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication. However, conflicts are inevitable, and how they’re handled can either strengthen or strain the bond between partners. Some individuals may unintentionally or even purposefully create tension in relationships, often as a way to assert independence or address unmet needs. While this behavior can be frustrating, understanding the underlying causes is key to resolving it.
When conflicts arise, it’s essential to look beyond the surface. Sometimes, people may provoke arguments as a way to express feelings they struggle to articulate. For instance, they might feel unheard, undervalued, or constrained in the relationship. These emotions can manifest as defensive or combative behavior, leading to misunderstandings.
On the other hand, deliberate attempts to create space in a relationship by causing fights can point to deeper issues. It might stem from a desire for autonomy, dissatisfaction, or even a lack of commitment. While such actions can feel disrespectful or disloyal, they often highlight a need for honest communication and introspection.
Addressing these challenges requires effort from both partners. Open dialogue is crucial—creating a safe space where both individuals can share their feelings without fear of judgment. Active listening and empathy go a long way in bridging gaps and rebuilding trust. Additionally, setting boundaries and seeking professional guidance, such as couples therapy, can provide valuable tools for navigating complex dynamics.
Ultimately, relationships thrive when both partners are willing to work together, even in the face of conflict. By focusing on understanding and growth, it’s possible to transform challenges into opportunities for deeper connection.
Being a good wife in 2025 encompasses a blend of timeless values and modern dynamics, fostering a marriage built on mutual respect, love, and faith. The Bible offers valuable guidance on how to navigate this journey, with verses that emphasize the importance of commitment, compassion, and partnership.
First and foremost, a good wife is supportive and nurturing, providing a strong foundation for her family. Proverbs 31:10-12 highlights the virtues of a capable wife: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” This passage underscores the significance of being a reliable and trustworthy partner, contributing positively to the household’s well-being.
In today’s fast-paced world, communication is key to maintaining a healthy relationship. Ephesians 4:29 advises, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Effective communication involves active listening, empathy, and expressing thoughts and feelings in a constructive manner. By fostering open and honest dialogue, a wife can strengthen her bond with her husband and resolve conflicts more effectively.
A good wife also exemplifies kindness and compassion, reflecting the love of Christ in her actions. Colossians 3:12-14 encourages, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” By embodying these virtues, a wife can create a loving and harmonious environment for her family.
In addition to emotional support, a good wife is a partner in managing household responsibilities and contributing to the family’s financial stability. Proverbs 31:16-18 illustrates the industrious nature of a capable wife: “She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” In 2025, this might translate to balancing a career, managing household chores, and supporting her husband’s endeavors.
While juggling multiple roles, it’s essential for a wife to prioritize her own well-being. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” Taking care of one’s physical, mental, and spiritual health enables a wife to be the best version of herself for her family.
Finally, faith plays a central role in a strong marriage. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 emphasizes the strength of a partnership rooted in faith: “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” By nurturing a shared spiritual life, a wife can build a resilient and enduring marriage.
In conclusion, being a good wife in 2025 involves embracing timeless principles of love, support, and faith, while adapting to the modern challenges and opportunities of today. By drawing inspiration from the Bible, a wife can cultivate a strong and fulfilling marriage that stands the test of time.
If you could ask God for anything in your life, what would you ask him to provide for you?
Recently I heard a radio segment discussing how we unknowingly are faced with making hundreds of immeasurable decisions on a regular basis. Our families and friends always rely on the best versions of us. As women, many of us make the majority of decisions for our families each day. At times our lives can get hectic and overwhelming making it difficult to find our inner peace and hear the instructions of God. Searching for peace can feel like a fleeting journey, however, the bible has laid out the map on how we can find everlasting peace through God. This path can also guide us on how to be better wives, mothers, friends, etc.
Today I would like to share a few steps that I have taken on my journey with God to find peace in parts of my life that I thought I had a void to fill.
Understanding what I am looking for.
I found myself often thinking I didn’t have enough. I would often overindulge or being to hoard in fear of not having what I needed. God has given us everything we need. Following the Lord’s commandments and praying can establish a strong foundation with God.
2 Thessalonians 3:16 ESV “ Now may the Lord of Peace himself give you peace at all times in every way. The lord be with you all.”
Confidence in God’s plan.
God will NEVER lead us astray. Though we may endure punishments for our transgressions, God still only wants what is best for us. We often feel overcome with anxiety due to uncertainties of the future. Always remember YOUR PLAN IS NOT GOD’S PLAN. Throughout the bible, we are encouraged to trust in God’s plan. Worrying is not a part of Gods plan. When we surrender fear and worry, God provides calmness and strength. His timing is always perfect.
Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Reflect on your blessings.
Every time I thought I was down to my last, a greater gift was revealed to me. Shift your focus back to God, he has always been faithful. Has God ever let you down? When things haven’t went your way, just remember that God has always had your back and given you much better that what you have asked for. Reflecting on God’s promises and everything that I have been blessed with, reminded me that Gods presence has always been consistent.
Psalm 103:2-5 “Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things he does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases. He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies. He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle’s!”
God offers a permanent peace that the world cannot offer us. Isaiah 41:10 ESV “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” You can rest assured that God will guide us to peace and calmness.
So many things in our lives come and go. We are always looking for the next thing to make us feel sufficient. All the fun and materialistic things we possess will never solve true problems. Building a personal relationship with God defines a solution that we can not find in the world. Until we have true peace with God, we may never experience true peace during this life time.
Hey ladies, and welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would like to discuss with you the importance of loving yourself. 1 Corinthians 6:19, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own”. When I mention loving yourself, this does not mean being arrogant, or boastful about your looks, personality or intelligence. Loving yourself means that you take care of the body and mind God has gifted with you. We need to be more cautious with our physical and mental health. Loving yourself can help with improving symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression. Self-love can help you build a strong foundation and make you better equipped to cope with the inevitable ups and downs of life. Loving yourself will also encourage healthier behaviors. For example, exercising or eating right. It is important to be aware of what we put into our bodies. Let’s start reading food labels and adhering to food warnings. Mental health and obesity is at an all time high in our country, and this starts with what we eat. We can fight against it and protect those around us by changing what we eat and feed our families.
Once we start loving ourselves, this will also help us become more empathetic and compassionate. Proverbs 31: 11-12, “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not harm, all the days of her life”. Our husbands/ partners need a wife who is in touch with her feminine side. Compassion is a very important feminine trait. We as wives should be a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. As mentioned in previous blogs, our husbands experience hardships daily from the outside world. We need to provide a safe space for them and be available to listen and be empathetic with a genuine heart. Building our inner strength is one of the keys to success in your life, specially in creating and maintaining a healthy marriage.
We as wives and mothers need to seek freedom from any negative thoughts we may have about ourselves. Loving one self is the key to loving God and others. As long as you are discontent with yourself, you will be unable to devote and dedicate yourself to God or your family. 1 Peter 2:9 “But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into a marvelous light”. Praise God! We are his chosen people. Let’s walk around with our heads held high and thank God for his grace and mercy. Wake up in the morning and be grateful for everything God has done and will continue to do for you. This alone should help boost your confidence in dealing with everyday life concerns and the pressures from the outside world. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, and welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing one of my most favorite topics, prioritizing our husbands. To prioritize our husband simply means to make him a priority in our lives through attention and action. One way we can prioritize our husband is to be supportive of his goals. We should be encouraging his ambitions and any interest he may have. We should also offer our assistance and take initiative to help our husband reach and surpass their goals. Genesis 2:18, “Then the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”. We, as women, were created with two purposes. The first purpose is to help and obey our husbands, and the second purpose is to bear children. Part of supporting our husband’s goals is to be an active listener. We should be paying attention every time he speaks with a sincere and genuine interest. When we are actively listening to our husbands, this allows our husband to feel valued and heard. This helps build trust, and resolve conflicts with a clear understanding.
Another way we can prioritize our husbands is to be present. When you and your husband are together, put away any distractions you may have. For example, phones, social media, or work. We need to be fully engaged and present to our husbands’ needs. In the modern world with women currently working full time jobs, it may seem difficult to schedule or dedicate time to fulfill all of our duties as a wife. In my home, we have a saying. “If you have 8 hours for work, you need to have 16 hours to dedicate to your husband. If you have 2 hours to watch television, you should have 4 hours to dedicate to your husband. And if you have 3 hours to go to lunch with your friends, then you need to have 6 hours to dedicate to your husband”. I hope you understand what this means. Our husbands deserve, at minimum, double the time and double the effort, we put into the outside world. Ephesians 5:31,” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. Once we lay with a man, and are married under God’s law, you become a part of him. Our job is to ensure all our husbands’ needs are met on a daily basis. This does not mean doing the bare minimum, cooking dinner and making the bed is not sufficient. Schedule time to make your husband feel appreciated. You may give him massages, foot rubs, and facials. You can also sit with him and watch a movie or do your own personal bible study together. Or my favorite, just take some time to show affection. I personally enjoy showering my husband with kisses, rubbing his back and his head, constant hugs, and constant thank yous. We all have a different love languages. It is our job as wives to find out what our husbands enjoy, and provide the enjoyment for him.
The last way we can prioritize our husbands that I would like to discuss today is by respecting them. We need to respect our husbands, and also demand respect from all outsiders when it comes to our husband and any decisions he may make. This includes family, friends, and strangers. Ephesians 5:23, ” For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior”. Our husbands are not only the head in our marriage, they are also the head of the household. We, as wives, should not be allowing anyone into our home who blatantly disrespects our husband or who has a hidden ill will towards our husbands. If anyone disrespects your husband, you should feel disrespected yourself. We also need to respect any decisions our husbands make, and not try to debate or negotiate with his decision. Once we married our husbands, that meant that we trust in him to lead us in the right direction under Gods law. A negotiation or debate with a decision our husband has made, just shows disloyalty and distrust in our husband. 1 Peter 3:5, “For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands”. Let’s be the wife our husbands need and desire. It will not only strengthen your bond, but also ensure a long, successful and loving marriage. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would like to discuss the importance of us staying in touch with our feminine side and our roles as wives/ mothers. Titus 2:3-5, “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves too much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled”. God has assigned us women to certain roles. We need to learn to accept and appreciate our roles. We also need to learn to embrace being a woman and clinch on to femininity. Genesis 2:18,” Then the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a helper fit for him”. Women were designed and created by God to be nurturers, and these traits should come naturally to us. As women, we are supposed to be empathetic, charming, gentle, soft, and sensitive. We also have to be responsive and attentive to our husbands and children’s need.
1 Timothy 2:9-10, “Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness with good works”. God commands us as women to be modest in our apparel. Being modest simply means to be decent and cover up. You heard that right, no more short shorts, leggings, or skin tight jeans. Wearing long dresses or skirts emphasizes our femininity. A woman wearing a skirt will always be perceived as more feminine than a woman in pants in men’s eyes and God’s eyes.
Proverbs 14:1, ” The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down”. As wives/ mothers, part of our role is to enforce the rules, and protect the peace in our households. We can not and should not be quarrelsome with our husbands. A quarrelsome woman is a masculine woman. God has a set hierarchy in place and has appointed our husbands as the lead of our households. God commands us to submit to our husbands. A submissive wife is a beautiful thing to see. A woman who fully submits to her husband, is known as an honorable and respectful wife. Our husbands endure strife from the outside world on a daily basis. We need to provide a place of security and peace for him. No man wants to come home and feel unloved or not needed. Let’s let go of our tough/ strong side, and bring out our soft and loving side. Hug your husbands, listen to your husbands, encourage your husbands, and ensure ALL of his needs are met. And don’t forget to APPRECIATE your husband. God has blessed you with a leader and teacher. Put your trust in your husband, and believe in your heart that he will not guide you in the wrong direction.
Today, we will all start working on embracing our femininity. Femininity entitles us to give generously, not to materialistic items, but to give your heart to God, your husband, and others around you. Being feminine gives us women the power to bring beauty and balance to the lives of people around us. Proverbs 11:16, ” A gracious woman gets honor, and violent men get riches”. Today we stop being strong independent women, and become like the gracious woman from Proverbs. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would like to discuss the importance of having a pure heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 “But the Lord said to Samuel, do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart”. When we have a pure heart, we will receive many blessings from the Lord. The word pure means clean. We pray to God daily, and ask for the things we need, however God already knows what is in our hearts. We need to stand before God with a pure, honest, and an open heart. This does not mean that we are sinless or living perfect lives. This just means our intentions are pure and righteous in the eyes of the Lord, and we learn from and repent for our mistakes.
James 4:8 “Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded”. A great way to cleanse your hearts and become closer to God, is with daily bible study time. You may study alone, this gives you time to reflect on how we can better ourselves for our God, our husbands and our families. I also recommend setting some time aside to study with your husbands and children. God is the foundation to a strong and successful family. It is important to raise our children in the truth and teach them to fear God from a very young age. This allows our children to grow to be pure and God-fearing adults. You may also study with a group of sisters/ friends. You will be surprised at the wisdom and knowledge you may gain from being open-minded and willing to accept others’ wisdom or advice.
Matthew 23:25 “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence”. This simply means that we need to continuously and faithfully follow all of God’s commandments. We CAN NOT be wicked on Friday and Saturday nights, and then choose to follow God’s laws on Sunday. As God-fearing women, we need to have a righteous heart and mind at ALL times. 2 Timothy 2:22, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart”. The best way to ensure we are living righteously and staying on the right track, is to surround ourselves with other like-minded and God-fearing sisters/friends. You absolutely can not be friends or associate with evil and wicked women and believe that you will not be negatively influenced. Let’s remove all the evil temptations from around us and focus on the good. God is the good!!!
Matthew 5:8 “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see GOD”. Our goal in life as women should be to serve the most High God, serve our husbands, and raise our children properly. We are unable to do these 3 actions with an unclean heart. Let’s repent of all of our sins, and start today with a brand new you. Don’t turn back to the evil and disgusting ways of your past. Let’s make God and our families proud. It is a beautiful site to see a woman walking righteously. We need to set a good example for other women and our daughters. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing the importance of being honest with ourselves and for our God. Proverbs 12:22 “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight”. The Lord God commands us to be honest with ourselves and to each other. Being honest is the foundation to earning trust in our relationships here on earth and with God. Proverbs 19:1 “Better is a poor person who walks in his integrity than one who is crooked in speech and is a fool”. Honesty helps us maintain our integrity and morals. In the end, you may not have a big house, fancy cars, or a hundred friends, however, if you have your integrity and faith in the Lord you are winning.
Honesty is also important as it applies to accountability. Proverbs 11:3 “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the crookedness of the treacherous destroys them”. Accountability is important because it helps us lead by example. When we are personally accountable for our mistakes or lies, we set an example for those around us. People respect honesty and accountability and are more likely to trust someone who is accountable for their actions. Accountability also teaches us to be humble. Lets humble ourselves and recognize our weaknesses.
Honesty also helps us build trust and earn respect from others. When we are honest with one another, we respect the fact that they deserve to know the truth. 2 Corinthians 8:21 “For we aim at what is honorable not only in the Lords sight but also in the sight of man”. If we deceive or conceal things from one another it communicates that we don’t believe that someone deserves to know or is able to handle the truth. This correlates with being humble. We are not better than one another, and only God knows what is best for us.
1 Peter 3:10-12 “For whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil”. God considers lying as evil. Lets do right by God and by each other, even if this means making you do something uncomfortable. Being truthful with our words and actions is important to building and maintaining long and healthy relationships. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to discuss the importance of lifting our husbands up and encouraging them. Genesis 2:18 “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”. We as women were created to help our husbands in all aspects of their lives. From simple duties at home to helping them fulfill their dreams and life goals. It may be something as simple as a game he might be playing, something as big as opening/ running his own business or expanding his family. Ephesians 5:22” Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior”. As wives, we need to value our husbands’ actions and ideas. God created our husbands as the stronger and smarter vessel, in order for them to lead and guide us. A big part of submission is trust. We as wives need to trust that our husband is leading us down an honorable path and has righteous dreams and goals for himself as well as his family.
We live in a time where we see women trying to bring their husbands down because they do not agree with their husbands’ ideas or may not want to go along with her husbands plans. Genesis 3:16 “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you”. You see, this is not a choice, this is a commandment from God. Now I am not saying as wives we are not entitled to an opinion. Of course you can have an opinion. In most cases if your opinion comes from logic, your husband will be willing to listen and possibly even see things from a different perspective. However, in the end, our husbands have the final say. Ephesians 4:2 “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love”. As women we were created to be soft and feminine. Women are not supposed to be louder or stronger than a man is. Do not try to overtalk or belittle your husbands. We need to learn, appreciate and apply to our daily lives the role that God created for us as women.
As women we need to learn that when we marry a man, we no longer should be a priority to ourselves. Our husband becomes the main priority in our lives. This may mean temporarily or permanently pausing our dreams and goals to help our husbands achieve theirs. Lets not think about that in a negative light, instead see it as a blessing that we were honored with the opportunity to help and watch our husbands’ growth. When you genuinely love someone, you want to see the best for them, in all aspects of their lives. Let’s live our lives as the wife from Proverbs 31, “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax and works with willing hands.” Take some time this week, and focus on your husbands. Sit him down, ask him what his dreams are, ask him how you may be of help and assure them that they have your full support. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing the importance of protecting the peace within ourselves. Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to GOD”. God does not want us to worry. We need to put our trust in him. 1 Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it”. God does not put troubles in our way that we are unable to handle. With faith and patience, we can overcome any obstacle.
Proverbs 8:13, “The fear of the Lord is hatred of evil. Pride and arrogance and the way of evil and perverted speech I hate”. If we truly fear our God, we will stray away from any evil sayings or doers. A good way to protect our peace, is to be cautious of the people we keep around us. Proverbs 16:17, “The highway of the upright turns aside from evil; whoever guards his way preserves his life”. Whether it is knowingly or unknowingly, our families and friends can turn us from our God in many ways. It might be a simple invite out to a late-night party/ club, or as severe as trying to change our beliefs. 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals”. God leaves it up to us to make the right decisions. We will be tempted with different sins daily, but as strong God- fearing women, we need to be able to say no, this is not right or walk away from these situations.
Isaiah 48:22, “There is no peace, says the Lord, for the wicked”. We need to remember to have peace within ourselves, we need to be living righteously. God wants us to follow ALL his commandments, not just some. Moving forward, lets work on keeping our faith strong and staying away from evil and negative people. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would like to discuss with you different ways we can become one mind and body. 1 Corinthians 1:10, “I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment”. God wants us to unite and become one group (his chosen group) of people, with the same heart and mind. You might be wondering, how do so many different women with different bodies and different upbringings become one? Acts 4:32 “Now the full number of those who believed were of one heart and soul, and no one said that any of the things that belonged to him was his own, but they had everything in common”. It is quite simple, all we need to do is believe in God, and follow ALL his commandments. If we genuinely believe in God, the way he commands us to, then we will all have the same mindset and goals for our futures.
1 Peter 3:8 “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind”. We, as women, need to be able to accept one another’s differences and learn to communicate with each other. Communication is key! We need to not judge one another, and instead take the time to learn from one another. Ephesians 4:3 “Eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in bond of peace”. If we take the time to communicate with other women in the word/ faith around us, we might be surprised as to the peace and joy they may bring into our lives. That other women might be your new best friend/ sister in the Lord. Romans 14:19 “So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding”. As an individual we might believe that we are strong, however the truth is that there is real strength in numbers. When we unite, we can accomplish bigger and better things.
This world has taught us to be “strong, independent women”. However, the truth is, that is not what our God wants us. Philippians 2:2 “Complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind”. Let’s practice humbling ourselves, accepting help, and accepting love from other women. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would love to discuss the importance of coming together as one. Hebrews 10:25 “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near”. God encourages us to meet regularly. Acts 20:32, “Christians come together to build each other up and encourage each other spiritually”. He commands us to encourage one another with genuine love and kindness. Gathering in God’s name strengthens our faith and bond with each other and with GOD.
God commands us to come together for many different reasons. The first reason I would like to discuss is coming together to glorify God. Psalm 34:3, “Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together!” God deserves all the glory. When we are united in Gods name to show praise, it shows appreciation for all that God will do and has done for us. The second reason we should come together is to promote fellowship for God. Mark 16: 15-16, “And he said to them, “Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation. Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned.” This verse in the bible is mainly directed to men, however as women we are also allowed to teach other women and children about Gods truth. God wants us to be saved, and to live righteously to make it in the new kingdom (heaven), and the only way we will make it is to know the commandments and laws that he provided to us. The majority of women around us do not believe in God correctly, it is our job to share our knowledge with them and correct them in their wrong ways of believing. A third reason we are commanded to unite under God is to properly impress others. Psalm 96:3, “Declare his glory among the nations, his marvelous works among all the peoples.” God has chosen us to be his chosen people. This means we need to hold ourselves to a higher standard. As women, we need to be modest and respectable. We must also stand strong with our husbands, sisters, and brothers. It is so glorious for other nations to see a family or group of people standing together in the faith and truth of our almighty God.
Lastly, I would like to discuss coming together for our Holy Days. God has created 10 beautiful Holy Days for us to celebrate yearly. Matthew 18:20 “Where two or three are gathered, there am I in their midst.” In everything we do we need God to be a part of it. God has saved us repeatedly from many trials and tribulations. The least we can do is gather in his name to thank him. As women, we should want to see a large beautiful family gathering in happiness and love. A gathering where we can cook, dance, and laugh together. Ladies, let’s work on being more open-minded, sharing our love for God, and understanding the importance of uniting into one body and mind. Always remember, put God first and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will discuss the importance of living a holy and righteous life. 1 Corinthians 10:13 tells us, “No temptation that is not common to man has overtaken you. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it”. This means that God will not put you in any situation where your only option is to sin. We need to be strong as women and encourage one another to steer away from the evil and negative temptations of this world. Often, we are influenced by music, movies, family, or friends. We as women need to remember that God and his commandments come above all. Don’t be scared to lose friends or family, or to not fit in with others. Luke 21:16-18, tells us “You will be betrayed even by parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death”. We need to put all our trust in God and his word. He will not steer us down the wrong path.
Mark 7:20-23, says “And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, comes evil thoughts of sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person”. If we are surrounded by people who are not living righteously, it will influence us to do wrong as well. We need to find friends/ sisters who have the same beliefs as we do. In Matthew 12:50, it says “For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother”. We need to understand that our brothers and sisters do not necessarily come from our mom and dad, but they are those who we connect with under the same faith.
We need to strive for perfection. Matthew 5:48, says “You, therefore, must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect”. This does not mean perfect under European standards, because that is a perfection that none of us can or will meet. It means perfection in God’s eyes. Perfection for God simply means keeping ALL his laws and commandments. And I promise you, this is something that is not hard to do. Just keep your faith, love one another genuinely, and stay away from evil people and evil things.
Lets wake up every morning ladies, and tell ourselves “What can I do to be a better person today”. In Hebrews 10:26, it says “For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins”. This explains to us, that once we know better, we need to do better. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing the importance of having order in our home. 1 Corinthians 11:3 says “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God”. God has sent an order for our families to abide by. God sets this order to give us structure in our homes. Now again, I know this might be a touchy subject for some women because we have been programmed to be strong and independent, but that is not how God wants us to act as women.
When there are multiple people in a household or any situation, who all believe they are in charge, this causes nothing but disorder and chaos.
Ephesians 5:22-24, states “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands”. We as wives must learn to submit to our husbands and accept their authority and leadership in all things. This is not a suggestion from me, this is a commandment from the most high God. Submission allows a wife to confidently follow her husband’s lead and ensure that he is leading her and their household down a straight and God-fearing path. Submission does not necessarily imply inferiority from a wife, it just implies that we as wives were given a different role in our relationships than our husbands by God. Our husbands are a gift and blessing from God, to teach us how to live our lives properly and help us better improve ourselves. Once we receive this precious gift from God, we need to value and cherish it.
Genesis 2:24, says “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. Our husbands chose us, we do not choose them. So, when the time comes that you are blessed enough to be chosen by a man, we need to understand that he has made the decision to be responsible for us and care for us. This means that he is going to protect and love you, the same way he wants Christ to protect and love him. Full submission to our husbands is mandatory in a marriage under God. Full submission also shows our husbands that we truly respect and trust their decision-making skills.
Titus 2:5, it states “To be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husband”. God wants us as wives to always be in our “feminine energy”. We as women do not need to be tough or be under the impression that we should be making decisions for our households. Let’s leave that to our husbands and be willing to fully submit and obey with a pure heart. Don’t forget God is judging our hearts and our actions. Ladies, let us love our husbands how God intended us to love them and stop living our lives by the way of man. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing one of my favorite subjects, Love. We will be learning the true meaning of love and how we should love one another according to God’s standards. 1 John 4:8 tells us, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”. This means that to love how God commands us to love, we need to know and follow ALL of God’s commandments and live our lives according to the bible.
We currently live in a society where being selfish and independent in life is encouraged for women. We are taught as little girls to make ourselves and our feelings a priority over everyone and everything else. This is the wrong way to live your life. Just like the old saying goes, we need to treat one another, how we would want to be treated. In John 13:34, it says “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another”. If we take the time to open our hearts and accept the people who God put in our lives to love us, we will have a more fulfilling and joyous life. In Proverbs 10:12, it says “Hatred stirs up strife, but love conquers all”. This verse should be a reminder that our lives are much easier if there is no hatred or jealousy among each other.
1 Corinthians 13:4, it says “Love is patient and kind, love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its way; it is not angry or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but it rejoices at the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”. This verse is so powerful, and we can learn so much from it. We as women need to be willing to accept others into our lives, and not make everything a competition. As the verse says, don’t be envious or arrogant. There are so many wonderful opportunities that you will miss out on in life if we close the doors to people who want to show us love. In Galatians 5:22, it teaches us “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and faithfulness”. As women, showing love and affection to others should be in our nature. We are soft and kind, we are understanding and compassionate, and we are gentle and considerate.
1 Corinthian 16:14, it says “Let all that you do be done in love”. This verse teaches us, that even if we assume or believe that someone has done us wrong in any way, our response to the situation should be to be forgiving and open to giving chances. Although we strive to live our lives as perfectly as possible, the truth is that mistakes will be made along the way. We as women need to be able to move past these obstacles with open arms and an open heart. In John 15:13 it says, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends”. If we truly love God, then the correct response to someone’s mistake would be to correct them and teach them. As wives, mothers, daughters, and friends, we should not want to see anyone around us living their lives in sin. A simple conversation can go a long way. I know from personal experience, that anyone who holds grudges and stays quiet about my wrongdoings, does not truly love me.