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Blog 5: Loving Our Fellow Sisters Part 2.

Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to dive a little deeper into our last topic, loving our fellow sisters. As we learned in our last blog, we are commanded by God to love one another. And we all know, if God commands something from us, it means that it is good for us. Now, in our last blog, we learned about the benefits of loving our fellow sisters when it comes to building a loyal friendship but let’s go just a little deeper. I would like to discuss with y’all the benefits of Polygamy and upgrading the title Sisterhood to Sister Wives. As women we all know how difficult it could be to find a loyal, God-fearing man. In Hebrews 13:16 it says “Do not neglect to do good and share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God”.

 

As women we need to appreciate when we have a man who is willing to love and lead us in the right direction and share him with other women who have the same goal for the future as both of you do. Now, I know what you’re thinking. Why would I want to share my husband with someone else, and the answer is quite simple… there are more pros than cons in this situation. Men where not made or are not programed to be with only one woman. If we look in the bible, some of the most powerful and respectable men had multiple wives; Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon and many more. You may be thinking, this is not right, or God would not approve of this. I’m here to tell you, he does. When God asked King Solomon what he wished for, and Solomon replied with “Wisdom”, our God was so proud of the answer that he blessed King Solomon with wisdom, riches, honor, and 700 wives and 300 concubines. If that does not show that God approves, then I don’t know what does.

 

 As women, we need to start seeing the positive in the situation, and not always looking for something to be wrong or incorrect. If your husband has multiple wives, it does not mean he will start loving you any less, or that you are losing him. It’s actually the complete opposite. It shows that your husband has more than enough love to share, and that he is looking out for your best interest as his wife by bringing someone in to help you with all the duties you have on a day-to-day basis. As married women, we have a lot of responsibilities that we are responsible to complete on a daily basis. For example, breakfast, lunch, dinner, cleaning, cooking, getting the kids ready for school or picking them up from school.  Now while this may seem like a busy full day, we need to remember our husbands need to be taken care of as well. In Genesis 2:18, the bible tells us, “Then the lord says, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”. You see ladies, God made us specifically as helpmates for our husbands. It could be things like grooming, massages, helping with his business, running errands for him, sex, or just plain affection.

 

With everything I just listed, how do you have time for sleep, how do you have time for yourself, how do you have time to go to a girls lunch or even just go do your nails? The answer is you don’t. This is where a sister wife comes into play. A sister wife will cut all your responsibilities in half, if you have two sister wives, now they are cut in to thirds. Unfortunately, now a day, women will put all their effort and energy in to working for a company or into their children, and our husbands are left neglected. In 1 Timothy 5:8, the bible tells us, “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever”.  We need to prioritize our husbands needs and wants.  Having a sister wife will ensure that all of our husbands needs are met, and that he is happy and satisfied at the end of EVERY single day. It will also ensure more ME TIME for us as women.  Most woman believe that their husbands are loyal to them, and not sleeping with anyone else. That is a lie. Statistics have shown that 84% of married men have admitted to cheating in their relationships.

 

Statistics have also shown that men who are married to multiple wives, are less likely to step out in their relationships. Call me crazy, but I rather have an honest relationship, where my husband is open about what he is doing, and I know the other woman/ women he is laying down with, then to be left in the dark or live a lie. In Proverbs 3:17 it says, “Her ways are pleasantness, and her paths are peace”.  We woman are naturally loving, affectionate, and caring individuals. If done properly, with an open heart and genuine love for one another, having multiple women in one home, will only bring a warm, welcoming, and loving environment. An environment full of love, laughter and peace. An environment where the whole house can feel accomplished that everything is done at the end of each day, without us feeling worn out or exhausted. 

 

Take a second ladies, open your mind and hearts and take this in. Think about the pros, and how this will not only benefit your husband, but benefit you as well. And when you come to the conclusion, that this is a better way of living, go tell your husbands you are ready to add a Sister Wife to your relationship. I guarantee you, your husband will be so happy and grateful, and watch how both of your lives will improve.  Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place. 

Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives blog. Today we will be learning about one of my most favorite topics, the importance of sisterhood. Sisterhood is a genuine bond and connection between two or multiple women for whom they have something in common with. This bond is built through love, affection, and loyalty to the item or person who they share a common interest in. Sisterhood creates a special bond among women, by encouraging support, love and friendship between two or more women. In John 13:34, it tells us “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are also to love one another.” So ladies, this means that if you don’t have any other reason to love one another, we need to do it for God.  However, there are many benefits to building a relationship with your fellow sisters. One of the biggest benefits is that we will have peace among each other.

 

 In Proverbs 10:12 it says, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love conquers all offenses”. As women we need to be building each other up and supporting each other genuinely. There is no worse feeling than to know that another woman hates or looks down on you out of jealousy or just for no reason at all. In 1 Peter 1:22, it tells us “Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart”. God commands us to love one another from the heart. God does not want us to fake love. If the love is fake, you will never be able to build an honest connection with one another. One of the most popular verses in the bible about love is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, in this verse it tells us, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does no rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things”. 

 

This means that we need to be there for one another, through the good and the bad, and through thick and thin. We also need to motivate one another to be better, and correct each other, when we see one another doing wrong, or falling away from our Lord. Our God wants to see us succeed and has blessed us with other to critique us in positive ways. Our God commands us to also be loving with one another and help each other out when needed. We as women may have certain things that we need help with, it might be household chores, running errands, or help with our children. Why not have a female friend who is willing to help take a load off your shoulders from time to time. 

 

And lastly,  sometimes we just need a listening ear, and I know from personal experience that certain topics are more easily discussed between women, instead of between women and men. So, as you can see ladies, these are just a few of the wonderful benefits of being open to building a bond/ sisterhood, with them women around you on a regular basis. Give it a try ladies, and I promise that if you and the other women are all putting in the effort from the heart and with God in mind, you will see the outcome of a beautiful, life long friendship and connection. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place. 

Blog 3: Children of God.

Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am delighted to have you here with me to learn about some of the benefits of raising our children knowing and fearing God. The Bible commands us as mothers to teach our children the bible. Deuteronomy 6:7 says, “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” In this verse, the word “them” refers to The Lord’s commandments.

 

According to research studies, 80% of children will follow their parent’s lead in religious beliefs.  According to those same studies, children who read and study the bible regularly from a young age have a 93% chance of success. In Proverbs 22:6 proves that by saying “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Growing up as a child in this current world is not as easy as it used to be. Our children are growing up in a world full of sin. There is sin in their music, TV shows, movies, classrooms, and so much more. When our children learn the commandments God has dedicated to us, it gives them a sense of security to know right from wrong and how to live their lives according to God’s demands.

 

I encourage you to set up a time daily to have bible study as a family, this will surely have a positive outcome on your relationship with children. The Bible also encourages us to discipline our children. In Proverbs 23:13 it tells us, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.” When we discipline our children, we are correcting them. Our children need to know from a young age that there are consequences for our actions. Our children must also know that they represent us (the parents) every time they step out of the house. A child who is disciplined will be respectful and obedient. 

 

As a parent is flattering to hear compliments from other family members, schools, and even strangers about how well-behaved and respectful our children are. We have to do our part as parents to ensure our children are headed into a positive future. Being a mother is one of the biggest blessings we will receive in our lives here on this earth. Let us work on changing our future, and that begins with our children. Lets start showing them how to live life according to the bible and what God commands from us. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.

Blog 2: How We Should Love Our Husbands According To The Bible.

Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives blog. I am so excited to have you here again to learn more with me. Today we will be discussing how we should love our husbands according to the bible. The bible can and will inspire growth within your marriage. Marriage is a lifelong commitment to your spouse and God. If you let God guide your marriage, he will lead you down the right path.

One of the most talked about topics about marriage in the bible is about submission. In Ephesians 5:22-24, it says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Submission in marriage means selflessness, accountability and respect for your husband. I know that in this “new world” we currently live in, we are taught that submission to your husband means a loss of identity or that you are his slave. Submission is actually the complete opposite. Submission is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength and faith in your husband. Submission is a way we can can honor and affirm our husbands leadership.

Another way we can love our husbands according to the bible is to be trustworthy. In Proverbs 31:11-12, it states, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.” When a man marries a woman he is risking a lot more than just a broken heart. He is risking his reputation and financial standing. Trusting the wife to be faithful and only committed to him, is one way a woman can be trustworthy, however there are a few other ways as well. Our husbands want to trust in us to also take care of the household. He needs to be confident that while he is away at work the house will be taken care, dinner will be cooked, and the children are being taught the ways of the bible.

The next way we can loves our husbands properly is by being peaceful. In 1 Peter 3:4, it tells us “But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a GENTLE and QUIET spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” A quiet spirit is a heart that can pause and give control to God and your husband. A quiet spirit trusts in her husband and knows that he will lead her in the right direction. Now this does not mean you are not allowed to have feelings or opinions. It just means that we know WHEN to take a step back and hold back. I know your probably wondering why God would ask us to be a quiet spirit, and the answer is quite simple. Without peace, our marriage can become full of tension and conflict, which will ultimately break our marriage down.

The last and one of the most important ways we can love our husbands is to pray for them. Prayer connects you and your husband on a spiritual level. If things seem to be going sour in your marriage, prayer will give you hope and allow you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Prayer will help you get through uncertain times. Prayer will also bring peace into your marriage. I suggest starting a routine, pray together in the morning, and in the evening before bed, and watch how your marriage becomes more peaceful.

Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall in to place.

Blog 1: Respecting Your Marriage.

Hey ladies, welcome to The Modern Good Wife blog. A community and safe space for like-minded women to voice their experiences as wives and mothers. A space for us to celebrate our husbands, in this crazy upside down world we're living in today. Where men are disrespected and emasculated for entertainment's sake. We "The Modern Good Wives" now have a platform to share our experiences with the good men we call honey, sweetie, daddy, or Big Papi lol. Today we are going to be talking about respecting our husband and our marriage. In Proverbs 12:4- it says "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones." Let's talk about what being a crown to your husband means. When you think about a king or a queen, the crown on their heads symbolizes that they are high in power and should be respected. We need to see ourselves as this symbol. The way we carry ourselves shows the world the power our husbands have in our marriage. Respect comes in many different ways. I would like to discuss a few ways with you today. Let's start with the elephant in the room ladies! Feeling like you have to ask permission can be a huge thing for some of us. However, it's more about how you are viewing it. I believe the most important way to show respect in our marriage is to always ask for his opinion in any and everything we do. Regardless if it is a major or minor decision, take a few seconds out of your day to ask him his opinion. This will show our husbands that we value and trust in what he says. We need to trust that our husbands want the best for us in everything we do. Allowing your husband to have an opinion on what we do will give them reassurance that they are good enough and smart enough to lead us. Second, lets discuss appreciation. Part of respect is showing admiration for our husbands. A good way to show admiration is by letting our husbands know how much they are valued. Thanking your husband for everything he does is a great way to show appreciation. Saying a simple thank you, is a great gesture, and it will go a long way. Our husbands are under a lot of pressure to provide and care for our families. We, as wives, need to let our husbands know that their values, and achievements mean just as much to us, as they do to them. Third, lets talk about support. By supporting our husbands ideas, we are showing him respect. As wives, we should be helping our husbands develop their ideas further. We should be constantly reminding our husbands of how amazing everything he does is. This will also boost our husbands confidence and faith in himself. Last, but definitely not least. Let's talk about accountability. By being accountable for when we are wrong about something shows that we respect and value our marriage. Accountability shows that we can be honest and transparent with our husbands. Wives need to be accountable for our mistakes, learn from them, and grow. Always remember put God first, and everything else will fall in to place.