Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing the importance of being honest with ourselves and for our God. Proverbs 12:22 “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight”. The Lord God commands us to be honest with ourselves and to each other. Being honest is the foundation to earning trust in our relationships here on earth and with God. Proverbs 19:1 “Better is a poor person who walks in his integrity than one who is crooked in speech and is a fool”. Honesty helps us maintain our integrity and morals. In the end, you may not have a big house, fancy cars, or a hundred friends, however, if you have your integrity and faith in the Lord you are winning.
Honesty is also important as it applies to accountability. Proverbs 11:3 “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the crookedness of the treacherous destroys them”. Accountability is important because it helps us lead by example. When we are personally accountable for our mistakes or lies, we set an example for those around us. People respect honesty and accountability and are more likely to trust someone who is accountable for their actions. Accountability also teaches us to be humble. Lets humble ourselves and recognize our weaknesses.
Honesty also helps us build trust and earn respect from others. When we are honest with one another, we respect the fact that they deserve to know the truth. 2 Corinthians 8:21 “For we aim at what is honorable not only in the Lords sight but also in the sight of man”. If we deceive or conceal things from one another it communicates that we don’t believe that someone deserves to know or is able to handle the truth. This correlates with being humble. We are not better than one another, and only God knows what is best for us.
1 Peter 3:10-12 “For whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil”. God considers lying as evil. Lets do right by God and by each other, even if this means making you do something uncomfortable. Being truthful with our words and actions is important to building and maintaining long and healthy relationships. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to discuss the importance of lifting our husbands up and encouraging them. Genesis 2:18 “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”. We as women were created to help our husbands in all aspects of their lives. From simple duties at home to helping them fulfill their dreams and life goals. It may be something as simple as a game he might be playing, something as big as opening/ running his own business or expanding his family. Ephesians 5:22” Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior”. As wives, we need to value our husbands’ actions and ideas. God created our husbands as the stronger and smarter vessel, in order for them to lead and guide us. A big part of submission is trust. We as wives need to trust that our husband is leading us down an honorable path and has righteous dreams and goals for himself as well as his family.
We live in a time where we see women trying to bring their husbands down because they do not agree with their husbands’ ideas or may not want to go along with her husbands plans. Genesis 3:16 “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you”. You see, this is not a choice, this is a commandment from God. Now I am not saying as wives we are not entitled to an opinion. Of course you can have an opinion. In most cases if your opinion comes from logic, your husband will be willing to listen and possibly even see things from a different perspective. However, in the end, our husbands have the final say. Ephesians 4:2 “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love”. As women we were created to be soft and feminine. Women are not supposed to be louder or stronger than a man is. Do not try to overtalk or belittle your husbands. We need to learn, appreciate and apply to our daily lives the role that God created for us as women.
As women we need to learn that when we marry a man, we no longer should be a priority to ourselves. Our husband becomes the main priority in our lives. This may mean temporarily or permanently pausing our dreams and goals to help our husbands achieve theirs. Lets not think about that in a negative light, instead see it as a blessing that we were honored with the opportunity to help and watch our husbands’ growth. When you genuinely love someone, you want to see the best for them, in all aspects of their lives. Let’s live our lives as the wife from Proverbs 31, “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax and works with willing hands.” Take some time this week, and focus on your husbands. Sit him down, ask him what his dreams are, ask him how you may be of help and assure them that they have your full support. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing the importance of protecting the peace within ourselves. Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to GOD”. God does not want us to worry. We need to put our trust in him. 1 Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it”. God does not put troubles in our way that we are unable to handle. With faith and patience, we can overcome any obstacle.
Proverbs 8:13, “The fear of the Lord is hatred of evil. Pride and arrogance and the way of evil and perverted speech I hate”. If we truly fear our God, we will stray away from any evil sayings or doers. A good way to protect our peace, is to be cautious of the people we keep around us. Proverbs 16:17, “The highway of the upright turns aside from evil; whoever guards his way preserves his life”. Whether it is knowingly or unknowingly, our families and friends can turn us from our God in many ways. It might be a simple invite out to a late-night party/ club, or as severe as trying to change our beliefs. 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals”. God leaves it up to us to make the right decisions. We will be tempted with different sins daily, but as strong God- fearing women, we need to be able to say no, this is not right or walk away from these situations.
Isaiah 48:22, “There is no peace, says the Lord, for the wicked”. We need to remember to have peace within ourselves, we need to be living righteously. God wants us to follow ALL his commandments, not just some. Moving forward, lets work on keeping our faith strong and staying away from evil and negative people. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would like to discuss with you different ways we can become one mind and body. 1 Corinthians 1:10, “I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment”. God wants us to unite and become one group (his chosen group) of people, with the same heart and mind. You might be wondering, how do so many different women with different bodies and different upbringings become one? Acts 4:32 “Now the full number of those who believed were of one heart and soul, and no one said that any of the things that belonged to him was his own, but they had everything in common”. It is quite simple, all we need to do is believe in God, and follow ALL his commandments. If we genuinely believe in God, the way he commands us to, then we will all have the same mindset and goals for our futures.
1 Peter 3:8 “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind”. We, as women, need to be able to accept one another’s differences and learn to communicate with each other. Communication is key! We need to not judge one another, and instead take the time to learn from one another. Ephesians 4:3 “Eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in bond of peace”. If we take the time to communicate with other women in the word/ faith around us, we might be surprised as to the peace and joy they may bring into our lives. That other women might be your new best friend/ sister in the Lord. Romans 14:19 “So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding”. As an individual we might believe that we are strong, however the truth is that there is real strength in numbers. When we unite, we can accomplish bigger and better things.
This world has taught us to be “strong, independent women”. However, the truth is, that is not what our God wants us. Philippians 2:2 “Complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind”. Let’s practice humbling ourselves, accepting help, and accepting love from other women. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today, I would love to discuss the importance of coming together as one. Hebrews 10:25 “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near”. God encourages us to meet regularly. Acts 20:32, “Christians come together to build each other up and encourage each other spiritually”. He commands us to encourage one another with genuine love and kindness. Gathering in God’s name strengthens our faith and bond with each other and with GOD.
God commands us to come together for many different reasons. The first reason I would like to discuss is coming together to glorify God. Psalm 34:3, “Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together!” God deserves all the glory. When we are united in Gods name to show praise, it shows appreciation for all that God will do and has done for us. The second reason we should come together is to promote fellowship for God. Mark 16: 15-16, “And he said to them, “Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation. Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned.” This verse in the bible is mainly directed to men, however as women we are also allowed to teach other women and children about Gods truth. God wants us to be saved, and to live righteously to make it in the new kingdom (heaven), and the only way we will make it is to know the commandments and laws that he provided to us. The majority of women around us do not believe in God correctly, it is our job to share our knowledge with them and correct them in their wrong ways of believing. A third reason we are commanded to unite under God is to properly impress others. Psalm 96:3, “Declare his glory among the nations, his marvelous works among all the peoples.” God has chosen us to be his chosen people. This means we need to hold ourselves to a higher standard. As women, we need to be modest and respectable. We must also stand strong with our husbands, sisters, and brothers. It is so glorious for other nations to see a family or group of people standing together in the faith and truth of our almighty God.
Lastly, I would like to discuss coming together for our Holy Days. God has created 10 beautiful Holy Days for us to celebrate yearly. Matthew 18:20 “Where two or three are gathered, there am I in their midst.” In everything we do we need God to be a part of it. God has saved us repeatedly from many trials and tribulations. The least we can do is gather in his name to thank him. As women, we should want to see a large beautiful family gathering in happiness and love. A gathering where we can cook, dance, and laugh together. Ladies, let’s work on being more open-minded, sharing our love for God, and understanding the importance of uniting into one body and mind. Always remember, put God first and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will discuss the importance of living a holy and righteous life. 1 Corinthians 10:13 tells us, “No temptation that is not common to man has overtaken you. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it”. This means that God will not put you in any situation where your only option is to sin. We need to be strong as women and encourage one another to steer away from the evil and negative temptations of this world. Often, we are influenced by music, movies, family, or friends. We as women need to remember that God and his commandments come above all. Don’t be scared to lose friends or family, or to not fit in with others. Luke 21:16-18, tells us “You will be betrayed even by parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death”. We need to put all our trust in God and his word. He will not steer us down the wrong path.
Mark 7:20-23, says “And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, comes evil thoughts of sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person”. If we are surrounded by people who are not living righteously, it will influence us to do wrong as well. We need to find friends/ sisters who have the same beliefs as we do. In Matthew 12:50, it says “For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother”. We need to understand that our brothers and sisters do not necessarily come from our mom and dad, but they are those who we connect with under the same faith.
We need to strive for perfection. Matthew 5:48, says “You, therefore, must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect”. This does not mean perfect under European standards, because that is a perfection that none of us can or will meet. It means perfection in God’s eyes. Perfection for God simply means keeping ALL his laws and commandments. And I promise you, this is something that is not hard to do. Just keep your faith, love one another genuinely, and stay away from evil people and evil things.
Lets wake up every morning ladies, and tell ourselves “What can I do to be a better person today”. In Hebrews 10:26, it says “For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins”. This explains to us, that once we know better, we need to do better. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing the importance of having order in our home. 1 Corinthians 11:3 says “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God”. God has sent an order for our families to abide by. God sets this order to give us structure in our homes. Now again, I know this might be a touchy subject for some women because we have been programmed to be strong and independent, but that is not how God wants us to act as women.
When there are multiple people in a household or any situation, who all believe they are in charge, this causes nothing but disorder and chaos.
Ephesians 5:22-24, states “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands”. We as wives must learn to submit to our husbands and accept their authority and leadership in all things. This is not a suggestion from me, this is a commandment from the most high God. Submission allows a wife to confidently follow her husband’s lead and ensure that he is leading her and their household down a straight and God-fearing path. Submission does not necessarily imply inferiority from a wife, it just implies that we as wives were given a different role in our relationships than our husbands by God. Our husbands are a gift and blessing from God, to teach us how to live our lives properly and help us better improve ourselves. Once we receive this precious gift from God, we need to value and cherish it.
Genesis 2:24, says “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. Our husbands chose us, we do not choose them. So, when the time comes that you are blessed enough to be chosen by a man, we need to understand that he has made the decision to be responsible for us and care for us. This means that he is going to protect and love you, the same way he wants Christ to protect and love him. Full submission to our husbands is mandatory in a marriage under God. Full submission also shows our husbands that we truly respect and trust their decision-making skills.
Titus 2:5, it states “To be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husband”. God wants us as wives to always be in our “feminine energy”. We as women do not need to be tough or be under the impression that we should be making decisions for our households. Let’s leave that to our husbands and be willing to fully submit and obey with a pure heart. Don’t forget God is judging our hearts and our actions. Ladies, let us love our husbands how God intended us to love them and stop living our lives by the way of man. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today we will be discussing one of my favorite subjects, Love. We will be learning the true meaning of love and how we should love one another according to God’s standards. 1 John 4:8 tells us, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”. This means that to love how God commands us to love, we need to know and follow ALL of God’s commandments and live our lives according to the bible.
We currently live in a society where being selfish and independent in life is encouraged for women. We are taught as little girls to make ourselves and our feelings a priority over everyone and everything else. This is the wrong way to live your life. Just like the old saying goes, we need to treat one another, how we would want to be treated. In John 13:34, it says “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another”. If we take the time to open our hearts and accept the people who God put in our lives to love us, we will have a more fulfilling and joyous life. In Proverbs 10:12, it says “Hatred stirs up strife, but love conquers all”. This verse should be a reminder that our lives are much easier if there is no hatred or jealousy among each other.
1 Corinthians 13:4, it says “Love is patient and kind, love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its way; it is not angry or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but it rejoices at the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”. This verse is so powerful, and we can learn so much from it. We as women need to be willing to accept others into our lives, and not make everything a competition. As the verse says, don’t be envious or arrogant. There are so many wonderful opportunities that you will miss out on in life if we close the doors to people who want to show us love. In Galatians 5:22, it teaches us “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and faithfulness”. As women, showing love and affection to others should be in our nature. We are soft and kind, we are understanding and compassionate, and we are gentle and considerate.
1 Corinthian 16:14, it says “Let all that you do be done in love”. This verse teaches us, that even if we assume or believe that someone has done us wrong in any way, our response to the situation should be to be forgiving and open to giving chances. Although we strive to live our lives as perfectly as possible, the truth is that mistakes will be made along the way. We as women need to be able to move past these obstacles with open arms and an open heart. In John 15:13 it says, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends”. If we truly love God, then the correct response to someone’s mistake would be to correct them and teach them. As wives, mothers, daughters, and friends, we should not want to see anyone around us living their lives in sin. A simple conversation can go a long way. I know from personal experience, that anyone who holds grudges and stays quiet about my wrongdoings, does not truly love me.
Love is not just a word, but also an action and a commitment. Love should not depend on our feelings, but rather on a courageous decision to extend ourselves to the well-being of others. We as women need to understand that instead of following our hearts, we should look to God as the definition of love. In 1 Peter 4:8, it says, “Above all, keep loving one another zealously, since love covers a multitude of sins”. We all have the same end goal, which is to make it into the new kingdom. And the only way we can do this is to live a sin-free life. Let’s continue to work on making ourselves more perfect, not only for our brothers and sisters and loved ones but also for GOD. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am very excited today to discuss with you the importance of staying away from evil and wicked people. Since the beginning of time, evil has been disguised in many different forms. If we read the bible, it tells us in Proverbs 4:14, “Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil”.
The wicked might be a complete stranger or the person closest to you. We need to learn to separate ourselves from these kinds of people, and we need to learn how to tell who is evil and who is genuine and faithful to God. There are many different reasons why someone may be evil and wicked to you. They might be jealous, holding a grudge, or judgmental. In 3 John 1:11, it tells us, “Beloved, do not imitate evil, but imitate good. Whoever does good is from God; whoever does evil has not seen God”.
The bible teaches us to stay away from evil, because evil and wickedness is against what our God commands from us. We may believe sometimes that we are genuinely liked or loved by someone, and the whole time they had ulterior motives with us. These will be the hardest to distinguish and the most heartbreaking to deal with. In 2 Timothy 3:13, it tells us, “While evil people and impostors will go on from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived”. We will be lied to and influenced into negativity. We will also be taught to live false realities, and this will stray us away from God and what is right. We will know who these people are in our times of need. An evil and wicked person will only be interested in you when they can benefit from you/the situation or are able to manipulate you. Once your eyes are open to the situation, or you are no longer of use to them, watch how fast the wicked start to mistreat you or disappear from your lives. In James 3:6, it says, “And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness.
The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell”. The evil people will try to persuade you to do something that is against our Gods commandments. It might be something as small as eating something you are not supposed to, all the way to something as big as not living the lifestyle God intended for us. There is only one way God commands us to be towards each other, and that is with love and peace. In John 13:34, it says, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you are also to love one another”. This must be done genuinely and from the bottom of the heart. God does not like fake love. If the company that you have been surrounding yourself does not believe in our God, and does not follow ALL of his commandments, then they do not sincerely love you, and will only cause you harm. In 1 John 4:8, it teaches us, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”.
Ladies, take some time, and observe the people who are around you. Do they love you and want the best for you or are you just another toy in their game. We need to protect our sanity and our peace all while following Gods commandments. Lets remove these people from our lives, it will be hard at first, but in the long run will bring you joy. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am so thankful you are back here with me once again on our road to bettering ourselves as women. Today we will be discussing self-respect, and some of the life choices we need to change as individuals and, in a group, to be respectable women of God. We currently are living in a “Hoe World”. In Deuteronomy 23:17-18, it says, “None of the daughters of Israel shall be a cult prostitute, and none of the sons of Israel shall be a cult prostitute. You shall not bring the fell of a prostitute or the wages of a dog into the house of the Lord your God in payment for any vow, for both of these are an abomination to the Lord your God”. Women have fallen victim to the idea that this is an acceptable way to live. Women have been influenced by music, clothing, and social media influencers. The media has brainwashed our women into living a certain lifestyle that our God would never approve of. It has been so out of control, that our daughters are listening to women like Sexy Red, Cardi B, and Megan, and have fallen into prostitution at young ages. These artists are not influencing our children in a positive way. In Proverbs 6:24-26, it teaches us, “To preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress. Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes; for the price of prostitution is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life”.
Our God commands us to live our lives opposite of what they teach our kids through their music. Our God commands us to be humble and modest women that dedicate ourselves to ONE husband. I read a study that said that by the age of 15, 43% of teenage girls have admitted to being sexually active. This is an alarming number. Teenage pregnancy leads to mental disorders in our children. Our children will have a higher chance of developing depression or anxiety because they are not mature enough in their teenage years to handle all the responsibilities that come with having a child. In Titus 2:3-5, it says “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slave to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled”. We as mothers need to set better examples for our children, especially for our daughters. We can start that by dressing more modestly. It is way to common that we see women half naked on social media or out with their children in public dressed inappropriately. This is a bad look, it looks sleazy, and it looks like you don’t value yourself. In Timothy 2:9, it tells us “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety”. A woman with a moderate dress on can still look sexy as well, especially when you wear it with confidence. Wouldn’t you prefer to see your daughters in dresses or skirts that go below the knee, then dressed in crop tops and shorts with their buttocks hanging out from the back.
This is not only a self-respect concern, but also a safety concern. We like to jump to blaming men for being perverts, but we as women sometimes give them the visuals to have disgusting thoughts and ideas. Now, I’m not saying it’s impossible, but there is a way smaller probability that when you walk past a man covered up and dressed moderately, that his first thoughts will be about sex. Now, think about the same scenario, you walk past a man half naked, maybe in a bikini, or a very short dress, or short shorts. That man’s mind is automatically going to jump to sex. We as women have to respect ourselves before we can expect respect from anyone else. We also need to stray away from certain family members, friends or acquaintances that have a negative impact on our lives. In 1 Corinthians 15:33, it tells us, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” Sometimes we may have known someone for a long time, but every time you get together, you know that it is going to be a wild time or there might be some trouble around. Stay away from the people who do not respect living a sinless life and are only concerned about having fun. I am not saying don’t have fun, I am just saying that once we start living the truth, and following Gods commandment, our fun needs to be different. No more bars, or nightclubs. No more passing out drunk on a friends couch, or waking up regretting the decisions made the night before. No more of anything that disobeys our Lords commandments. We need to find joy and pleasure in doing different activities. For example, going out to a nice dinner, or for coffee with our girlfriends. A day at the pool or soaking up some rays on the beach. I would even say, learning how to cook something new or joining a bible study class. We need to have friends with the same interest as us, because having “wild” friends will only cause you to sin and stray far away from our God. Lastly, I think we need to focus on our home life. In 1 Corinthians 7:39, it says “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives”.
Your children do not need to be meeting a new man every other week. We need to set the example for our household. We need to show our children stability and show them that no matter how bad things may get between a wife and a husband we need stick through it, and work on finding a solution together. We are the only ones that can change how the world currently perceives women, and the best way to start is with action. I urge you ladies, let’s change the perception the world has on us, and let’s be the perfect role model for our daughters. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to dive a little deeper into our last topic, loving our fellow sisters. As we learned in our last blog, we are commanded by God to love one another. And we all know, if God commands something from us, it means that it is good for us. Now, in our last blog, we learned about the benefits of loving our fellow sisters when it comes to building a loyal friendship but let’s go just a little deeper. I would like to discuss with y’all the benefits of Polygamy and upgrading the title Sisterhood to Sister Wives. As women we all know how difficult it could be to find a loyal, God-fearing man. In Hebrews 13:16 it says “Do not neglect to do good and share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God”.
As women we need to appreciate when we have a man who is willing to love and lead us in the right direction and share him with other women who have the same goal for the future as both of you do. Now, I know what you’re thinking. Why would I want to share my husband with someone else, and the answer is quite simple… there are more pros than cons in this situation. Men where not made or are not programed to be with only one woman. If we look in the bible, some of the most powerful and respectable men had multiple wives; Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon and many more. You may be thinking, this is not right, or God would not approve of this. I’m here to tell you, he does. When God asked King Solomon what he wished for, and Solomon replied with “Wisdom”, our God was so proud of the answer that he blessed King Solomon with wisdom, riches, honor, and 700 wives and 300 concubines. If that does not show that God approves, then I don’t know what does.
As women, we need to start seeing the positive in the situation, and not always looking for something to be wrong or incorrect. If your husband has multiple wives, it does not mean he will start loving you any less, or that you are losing him. It’s actually the complete opposite. It shows that your husband has more than enough love to share, and that he is looking out for your best interest as his wife by bringing someone in to help you with all the duties you have on a day-to-day basis. As married women, we have a lot of responsibilities that we are responsible to complete on a daily basis. For example, breakfast, lunch, dinner, cleaning, cooking, getting the kids ready for school or picking them up from school. Now while this may seem like a busy full day, we need to remember our husbands need to be taken care of as well. In Genesis 2:18, the bible tells us, “Then the lord says, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”. You see ladies, God made us specifically as helpmates for our husbands. It could be things like grooming, massages, helping with his business, running errands for him, sex, or just plain affection.
With everything I just listed, how do you have time for sleep, how do you have time for yourself, how do you have time to go to a girls lunch or even just go do your nails? The answer is you don’t. This is where a sister wife comes into play. A sister wife will cut all your responsibilities in half, if you have two sister wives, now they are cut in to thirds. Unfortunately, now a day, women will put all their effort and energy in to working for a company or into their children, and our husbands are left neglected. In 1 Timothy 5:8, the bible tells us, “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever”. We need to prioritize our husbands needs and wants. Having a sister wife will ensure that all of our husbands needs are met, and that he is happy and satisfied at the end of EVERY single day. It will also ensure more ME TIME for us as women. Most woman believe that their husbands are loyal to them, and not sleeping with anyone else. That is a lie. Statistics have shown that 84% of married men have admitted to cheating in their relationships.
Statistics have also shown that men who are married to multiple wives, are less likely to step out in their relationships. Call me crazy, but I rather have an honest relationship, where my husband is open about what he is doing, and I know the other woman/ women he is laying down with, then to be left in the dark or live a lie. In Proverbs 3:17 it says, “Her ways are pleasantness, and her paths are peace”. We woman are naturally loving, affectionate, and caring individuals. If done properly, with an open heart and genuine love for one another, having multiple women in one home, will only bring a warm, welcoming, and loving environment. An environment full of love, laughter and peace. An environment where the whole house can feel accomplished that everything is done at the end of each day, without us feeling worn out or exhausted.
Take a second ladies, open your mind and hearts and take this in. Think about the pros, and how this will not only benefit your husband, but benefit you as well. And when you come to the conclusion, that this is a better way of living, go tell your husbands you are ready to add a Sister Wife to your relationship. I guarantee you, your husband will be so happy and grateful, and watch how both of your lives will improve. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives blog. Today we will be learning about one of my most favorite topics, the importance of sisterhood. Sisterhood is a genuine bond and connection between two or multiple women for whom they have something in common with. This bond is built through love, affection, and loyalty to the item or person who they share a common interest in. Sisterhood creates a special bond among women, by encouraging support, love and friendship between two or more women. In John 13:34, it tells us “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are also to love one another.” So ladies, this means that if you don’t have any other reason to love one another, we need to do it for God. However, there are many benefits to building a relationship with your fellow sisters. One of the biggest benefits is that we will have peace among each other.
In Proverbs 10:12 it says, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love conquers all offenses”. As women we need to be building each other up and supporting each other genuinely. There is no worse feeling than to know that another woman hates or looks down on you out of jealousy or just for no reason at all. In 1 Peter 1:22, it tells us “Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart”. God commands us to love one another from the heart. God does not want us to fake love. If the love is fake, you will never be able to build an honest connection with one another. One of the most popular verses in the bible about love is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, in this verse it tells us, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does no rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things”.
This means that we need to be there for one another, through the good and the bad, and through thick and thin. We also need to motivate one another to be better, and correct each other, when we see one another doing wrong, or falling away from our Lord. Our God wants to see us succeed and has blessed us with other to critique us in positive ways. Our God commands us to also be loving with one another and help each other out when needed. We as women may have certain things that we need help with, it might be household chores, running errands, or help with our children. Why not have a female friend who is willing to help take a load off your shoulders from time to time.
And lastly, sometimes we just need a listening ear, and I know from personal experience that certain topics are more easily discussed between women, instead of between women and men. So, as you can see ladies, these are just a few of the wonderful benefits of being open to building a bond/ sisterhood, with them women around you on a regular basis. Give it a try ladies, and I promise that if you and the other women are all putting in the effort from the heart and with God in mind, you will see the outcome of a beautiful, life long friendship and connection. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Blog 3: Children of God.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am delighted to have you here with me to learn about some of the benefits of raising our children knowing and fearing God. The Bible commands us as mothers to teach our children the bible. Deuteronomy 6:7 says, “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” In this verse, the word “them” refers to The Lord’s commandments.
According to research studies, 80% of children will follow their parent’s lead in religious beliefs. According to those same studies, children who read and study the bible regularly from a young age have a 93% chance of success. In Proverbs 22:6 proves that by saying “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Growing up as a child in this current world is not as easy as it used to be. Our children are growing up in a world full of sin. There is sin in their music, TV shows, movies, classrooms, and so much more. When our children learn the commandments God has dedicated to us, it gives them a sense of security to know right from wrong and how to live their lives according to God’s demands.
I encourage you to set up a time daily to have bible study as a family, this will surely have a positive outcome on your relationship with children. The Bible also encourages us to discipline our children. In Proverbs 23:13 it tells us, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.” When we discipline our children, we are correcting them. Our children need to know from a young age that there are consequences for our actions. Our children must also know that they represent us (the parents) every time they step out of the house. A child who is disciplined will be respectful and obedient.