Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am very excited today to discuss with you the importance of staying away from evil and wicked people. Since the beginning of time, evil has been disguised in many different forms. If we read the bible, it tells us in Proverbs 4:14, “Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil”.
The wicked might be a complete stranger or the person closest to you. We need to learn to separate ourselves from these kinds of people, and we need to learn how to tell who is evil and who is genuine and faithful to God. There are many different reasons why someone may be evil and wicked to you. They might be jealous, holding a grudge, or judgmental. In 3 John 1:11, it tells us, “Beloved, do not imitate evil, but imitate good. Whoever does good is from God; whoever does evil has not seen God”.
The bible teaches us to stay away from evil, because evil and wickedness is against what our God commands from us. We may believe sometimes that we are genuinely liked or loved by someone, and the whole time they had ulterior motives with us. These will be the hardest to distinguish and the most heartbreaking to deal with. In 2 Timothy 3:13, it tells us, “While evil people and impostors will go on from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived”. We will be lied to and influenced into negativity. We will also be taught to live false realities, and this will stray us away from God and what is right. We will know who these people are in our times of need. An evil and wicked person will only be interested in you when they can benefit from you/the situation or are able to manipulate you. Once your eyes are open to the situation, or you are no longer of use to them, watch how fast the wicked start to mistreat you or disappear from your lives. In James 3:6, it says, “And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness.
The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell”. The evil people will try to persuade you to do something that is against our Gods commandments. It might be something as small as eating something you are not supposed to, all the way to something as big as not living the lifestyle God intended for us. There is only one way God commands us to be towards each other, and that is with love and peace. In John 13:34, it says, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you are also to love one another”. This must be done genuinely and from the bottom of the heart. God does not like fake love. If the company that you have been surrounding yourself does not believe in our God, and does not follow ALL of his commandments, then they do not sincerely love you, and will only cause you harm. In 1 John 4:8, it teaches us, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”.
Ladies, take some time, and observe the people who are around you. Do they love you and want the best for you or are you just another toy in their game. We need to protect our sanity and our peace all while following Gods commandments. Lets remove these people from our lives, it will be hard at first, but in the long run will bring you joy. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am so thankful you are back here with me once again on our road to bettering ourselves as women. Today we will be discussing self-respect, and some of the life choices we need to change as individuals and, in a group, to be respectable women of God. We currently are living in a “Hoe World”. In Deuteronomy 23:17-18, it says, “None of the daughters of Israel shall be a cult prostitute, and none of the sons of Israel shall be a cult prostitute. You shall not bring the fell of a prostitute or the wages of a dog into the house of the Lord your God in payment for any vow, for both of these are an abomination to the Lord your God”. Women have fallen victim to the idea that this is an acceptable way to live. Women have been influenced by music, clothing, and social media influencers. The media has brainwashed our women into living a certain lifestyle that our God would never approve of. It has been so out of control, that our daughters are listening to women like Sexy Red, Cardi B, and Megan, and have fallen into prostitution at young ages. These artists are not influencing our children in a positive way. In Proverbs 6:24-26, it teaches us, “To preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress. Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes; for the price of prostitution is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life”.
Our God commands us to live our lives opposite of what they teach our kids through their music. Our God commands us to be humble and modest women that dedicate ourselves to ONE husband. I read a study that said that by the age of 15, 43% of teenage girls have admitted to being sexually active. This is an alarming number. Teenage pregnancy leads to mental disorders in our children. Our children will have a higher chance of developing depression or anxiety because they are not mature enough in their teenage years to handle all the responsibilities that come with having a child. In Titus 2:3-5, it says “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slave to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled”. We as mothers need to set better examples for our children, especially for our daughters. We can start that by dressing more modestly. It is way to common that we see women half naked on social media or out with their children in public dressed inappropriately. This is a bad look, it looks sleazy, and it looks like you don’t value yourself. In Timothy 2:9, it tells us “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety”. A woman with a moderate dress on can still look sexy as well, especially when you wear it with confidence. Wouldn’t you prefer to see your daughters in dresses or skirts that go below the knee, then dressed in crop tops and shorts with their buttocks hanging out from the back.
This is not only a self-respect concern, but also a safety concern. We like to jump to blaming men for being perverts, but we as women sometimes give them the visuals to have disgusting thoughts and ideas. Now, I’m not saying it’s impossible, but there is a way smaller probability that when you walk past a man covered up and dressed moderately, that his first thoughts will be about sex. Now, think about the same scenario, you walk past a man half naked, maybe in a bikini, or a very short dress, or short shorts. That man’s mind is automatically going to jump to sex. We as women have to respect ourselves before we can expect respect from anyone else. We also need to stray away from certain family members, friends or acquaintances that have a negative impact on our lives. In 1 Corinthians 15:33, it tells us, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” Sometimes we may have known someone for a long time, but every time you get together, you know that it is going to be a wild time or there might be some trouble around. Stay away from the people who do not respect living a sinless life and are only concerned about having fun. I am not saying don’t have fun, I am just saying that once we start living the truth, and following Gods commandment, our fun needs to be different. No more bars, or nightclubs. No more passing out drunk on a friends couch, or waking up regretting the decisions made the night before. No more of anything that disobeys our Lords commandments. We need to find joy and pleasure in doing different activities. For example, going out to a nice dinner, or for coffee with our girlfriends. A day at the pool or soaking up some rays on the beach. I would even say, learning how to cook something new or joining a bible study class. We need to have friends with the same interest as us, because having “wild” friends will only cause you to sin and stray far away from our God. Lastly, I think we need to focus on our home life. In 1 Corinthians 7:39, it says “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives”.
Your children do not need to be meeting a new man every other week. We need to set the example for our household. We need to show our children stability and show them that no matter how bad things may get between a wife and a husband we need stick through it, and work on finding a solution together. We are the only ones that can change how the world currently perceives women, and the best way to start is with action. I urge you ladies, let’s change the perception the world has on us, and let’s be the perfect role model for our daughters. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. Today I would like to dive a little deeper into our last topic, loving our fellow sisters. As we learned in our last blog, we are commanded by God to love one another. And we all know, if God commands something from us, it means that it is good for us. Now, in our last blog, we learned about the benefits of loving our fellow sisters when it comes to building a loyal friendship but let’s go just a little deeper. I would like to discuss with y’all the benefits of Polygamy and upgrading the title Sisterhood to Sister Wives. As women we all know how difficult it could be to find a loyal, God-fearing man. In Hebrews 13:16 it says “Do not neglect to do good and share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God”.
As women we need to appreciate when we have a man who is willing to love and lead us in the right direction and share him with other women who have the same goal for the future as both of you do. Now, I know what you’re thinking. Why would I want to share my husband with someone else, and the answer is quite simple… there are more pros than cons in this situation. Men where not made or are not programed to be with only one woman. If we look in the bible, some of the most powerful and respectable men had multiple wives; Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon and many more. You may be thinking, this is not right, or God would not approve of this. I’m here to tell you, he does. When God asked King Solomon what he wished for, and Solomon replied with “Wisdom”, our God was so proud of the answer that he blessed King Solomon with wisdom, riches, honor, and 700 wives and 300 concubines. If that does not show that God approves, then I don’t know what does.
As women, we need to start seeing the positive in the situation, and not always looking for something to be wrong or incorrect. If your husband has multiple wives, it does not mean he will start loving you any less, or that you are losing him. It’s actually the complete opposite. It shows that your husband has more than enough love to share, and that he is looking out for your best interest as his wife by bringing someone in to help you with all the duties you have on a day-to-day basis. As married women, we have a lot of responsibilities that we are responsible to complete on a daily basis. For example, breakfast, lunch, dinner, cleaning, cooking, getting the kids ready for school or picking them up from school. Now while this may seem like a busy full day, we need to remember our husbands need to be taken care of as well. In Genesis 2:18, the bible tells us, “Then the lord says, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”. You see ladies, God made us specifically as helpmates for our husbands. It could be things like grooming, massages, helping with his business, running errands for him, sex, or just plain affection.
With everything I just listed, how do you have time for sleep, how do you have time for yourself, how do you have time to go to a girls lunch or even just go do your nails? The answer is you don’t. This is where a sister wife comes into play. A sister wife will cut all your responsibilities in half, if you have two sister wives, now they are cut in to thirds. Unfortunately, now a day, women will put all their effort and energy in to working for a company or into their children, and our husbands are left neglected. In 1 Timothy 5:8, the bible tells us, “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever”. We need to prioritize our husbands needs and wants. Having a sister wife will ensure that all of our husbands needs are met, and that he is happy and satisfied at the end of EVERY single day. It will also ensure more ME TIME for us as women. Most woman believe that their husbands are loyal to them, and not sleeping with anyone else. That is a lie. Statistics have shown that 84% of married men have admitted to cheating in their relationships.
Statistics have also shown that men who are married to multiple wives, are less likely to step out in their relationships. Call me crazy, but I rather have an honest relationship, where my husband is open about what he is doing, and I know the other woman/ women he is laying down with, then to be left in the dark or live a lie. In Proverbs 3:17 it says, “Her ways are pleasantness, and her paths are peace”. We woman are naturally loving, affectionate, and caring individuals. If done properly, with an open heart and genuine love for one another, having multiple women in one home, will only bring a warm, welcoming, and loving environment. An environment full of love, laughter and peace. An environment where the whole house can feel accomplished that everything is done at the end of each day, without us feeling worn out or exhausted.
Take a second ladies, open your mind and hearts and take this in. Think about the pros, and how this will not only benefit your husband, but benefit you as well. And when you come to the conclusion, that this is a better way of living, go tell your husbands you are ready to add a Sister Wife to your relationship. I guarantee you, your husband will be so happy and grateful, and watch how both of your lives will improve. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives blog. Today we will be learning about one of my most favorite topics, the importance of sisterhood. Sisterhood is a genuine bond and connection between two or multiple women for whom they have something in common with. This bond is built through love, affection, and loyalty to the item or person who they share a common interest in. Sisterhood creates a special bond among women, by encouraging support, love and friendship between two or more women. In John 13:34, it tells us “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are also to love one another.” So ladies, this means that if you don’t have any other reason to love one another, we need to do it for God. However, there are many benefits to building a relationship with your fellow sisters. One of the biggest benefits is that we will have peace among each other.
In Proverbs 10:12 it says, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love conquers all offenses”. As women we need to be building each other up and supporting each other genuinely. There is no worse feeling than to know that another woman hates or looks down on you out of jealousy or just for no reason at all. In 1 Peter 1:22, it tells us “Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart”. God commands us to love one another from the heart. God does not want us to fake love. If the love is fake, you will never be able to build an honest connection with one another. One of the most popular verses in the bible about love is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, in this verse it tells us, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does no rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things”.
This means that we need to be there for one another, through the good and the bad, and through thick and thin. We also need to motivate one another to be better, and correct each other, when we see one another doing wrong, or falling away from our Lord. Our God wants to see us succeed and has blessed us with other to critique us in positive ways. Our God commands us to also be loving with one another and help each other out when needed. We as women may have certain things that we need help with, it might be household chores, running errands, or help with our children. Why not have a female friend who is willing to help take a load off your shoulders from time to time.
And lastly, sometimes we just need a listening ear, and I know from personal experience that certain topics are more easily discussed between women, instead of between women and men. So, as you can see ladies, these are just a few of the wonderful benefits of being open to building a bond/ sisterhood, with them women around you on a regular basis. Give it a try ladies, and I promise that if you and the other women are all putting in the effort from the heart and with God in mind, you will see the outcome of a beautiful, life long friendship and connection. Always remember, put God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Blog 3: Children of God.
Hey ladies, welcome back to The Modern Good Wives Blog. I am delighted to have you here with me to learn about some of the benefits of raising our children knowing and fearing God. The Bible commands us as mothers to teach our children the bible. Deuteronomy 6:7 says, “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” In this verse, the word “them” refers to The Lord’s commandments.
According to research studies, 80% of children will follow their parent’s lead in religious beliefs. According to those same studies, children who read and study the bible regularly from a young age have a 93% chance of success. In Proverbs 22:6 proves that by saying “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Growing up as a child in this current world is not as easy as it used to be. Our children are growing up in a world full of sin. There is sin in their music, TV shows, movies, classrooms, and so much more. When our children learn the commandments God has dedicated to us, it gives them a sense of security to know right from wrong and how to live their lives according to God’s demands.
I encourage you to set up a time daily to have bible study as a family, this will surely have a positive outcome on your relationship with children. The Bible also encourages us to discipline our children. In Proverbs 23:13 it tells us, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.” When we discipline our children, we are correcting them. Our children need to know from a young age that there are consequences for our actions. Our children must also know that they represent us (the parents) every time they step out of the house. A child who is disciplined will be respectful and obedient.